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What do I do? do we have a stalker?

ok so I work in the music industry and my boyfriend is the singer for a pretty popular band. would tell you which band but its kinda the reason im asking this in the first place. ok well I also ride horses and work at the barn a lot. well theres a 14 year old girl who im friendly with who is at the barn a lot and she’s a HUGE fan of my boyfriends band (his name is corey by the way) anyway. I told her bout corey and stuff and she went and told ALL of her friends about it. and all these 13 year old kids are bothering me and him. well I was like ok well once she gets it out she’ll stop. I was wrong! she sits and analyzes our relationship and then bagers me with all these stupid questions and then tells all of her friends about it. I thought I could trust her. but obviously not. how can I ask her to stop with out making a huge deal out of it when I just want to go punch her in the face. please and thanks guys! im also a model. and if it gets out that im were together…its gonna kinda suck. I hate to be all hollywood and cheesy but I really dont like to talk about my relationships…not even too my friends. im so screwed haha please I need help! it really is like she’s our stalker man! I sware this girl could right a book about us. and she could really mess things up.

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Answer #1

You probably are not going to like my answer but here goes anyway. How old are you? The girl is 14 and is pretty much acting like a 14 year old girl, if you want her to stop be objective and try to remember what it was like for you at 14 and to have a celebrity crush. Be gentle and just tell her that in order to respect your privacy you must ask her to refrain from asking any more questions about your relationship with Corey. This whole situation is really, believe it or not, your own fault, why did you give her the information in the first place? Presumably you are an adult, perhaps deep down you like bragging about it? If you truly want to keep your relationship private then keep it private and tell no one who is not a trusted relative or long time friend. Sorry if this sounds harsh but it is the truth, just politely ask her to be mature, explain your position then move on.

Answer #2

first of all dont tell her anything more!!! shes obviously trying to stalk him thru u, and you defff need to put a stop to this. well my way of stopping it would def be getting noseto nose to her and tell her she better shut or mouth or id do it for her lol…that usauly works ;] but hey im not promoting violence so just tell her nicely to leave you alone and cut off all ties with her, try to avoid her at all possible times and say as little as you can to her, avoide eye contact and all! and if she asks you whats wrong or w/e just say your busy or make up some excuse that doesnt need anyyy exlanations, and then hopefully if you can just walk away, if she follows, try going to a bathroom or a priate room where she cant go in, wait a few mins and then go back out, if she works at the barn with you I would tell the boss that you either want to be placed in a different area where you can have little if any at all interaction with this girl, and tell your boss that she is basicly mentally abusing you because shes obv driving you nuts, hope she stops!

Answer #3

Just say something kinda minor.. like “ Wanna know what his favoritee something is?” and of course she will say yes and be like, Can I trust you with all of this? you cant tell anyone! Its a secret it anyone finds out about anyof this were screwed! You haven’t told anyone about anyof this HAVE YOU??? I garuntee she will never say anything to anyone again

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