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what do I do about my parents,they are keeping us apart???

brace urselves this mite be long… ok so im 17 and my boyfriend is 19,n for our age we are pretty mature enough for handling drastic situations.anyways im a hindu girl and he is half christian-muslim.and we started dating about a year ago,n we got really serious about each other and we still are,MADLY IN LOVE.basically we would die for each other.now in our little paradise we have there is a major problem,in jan me and boyfriend did this stupid mistake of bunking school and hanging out,n we knew the consequences but we still went out…anyways I lived with my uncle and aunt in india while my parents were in dubai so all of them found out the same day that we bunked school that day.n because my parentsthought that he mite be sum sort of sex maniac(which he is NOT) they seperated us.his parents found out too. my parents went to such length that they have brought me back to dubai,n are keeping me far away from him,they think we are not together anymore but we still are which is a BLESSING from god.n we are happy for still being each other’s one true love’s.in about 8yrs after college and jobs we want to make it official but the problem is our parents.they will go to any length to keep us apart.how do I let my parents understand that he is a genuine guy who makes me happy and that he loves me more than anyone else and I him.I want our parents to be apart of our lives and be happy for us.we both dont wanna hurt them but more than that we donot wanna be apart from each other.if we have lives its with each other or else thats the end of life. we really want our parents to accept us but how??? talking to them isnt gonna work since if we do and it turns out badly then they will know we still talk to each other and that we still are together that will just make our situation awhole lot worse.so any helpful answers??? im desperate…!!

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Answer #1

so I dont know a lot about ethnic parents, but I do know they can b pretty strict, so all I can say is your parents have made up there minds, I might suggest yall do a long distance relationship(webcam) and hide it from your parents just dont let them know, this may b unhealthy but its a temp fix, so just you and your boyfriend make a plan out to b together were your gona live and everything, explain to your parents hows he gonna support you and how happy you are and you know it wont ever fail…which you have o know right know and think without feelings can me and him work out, can we support eachother, will I marry this man, how good can we b together, theres this and so many more questions you have to ask yourself(FEELINGS SET ASIDE) cause I know ull sit there and say yes bc you love him, you need to take time to think about it, THEN if yall truly belive it will work out then you make plans to move in together, and support eachother, before yall move in gotta make sure you can afford everything, and you and him got good steady jobs, all this is years of work, in the meantime just fly to him or he to you and see eachother secretly till you feel confident you can tell your parents your still seein him, and if they dont agree then you already have a plan set up where you move in with him…b sure if your parents dont accept him that you can have the knowledge your parents didnt agree, and at first they may say things like your a disgrace but over time once they see your are doing well then they’ll see they were wrong…I hope these suggestions helped…

Answer #2

we have decided like most part…I mean like about college and resources an stuff.n yes I really have thought about it,n im not saying yes just because he I love him.but also because we can make it work,after college we both gonna get jobs atleast jobs that pay enough to provide for us,n then when the times ready we will move in together and get married. we already do the webcam thing,but flying aint an option rite now since like are parents are still like on major look outs now… and running away together is like our last option because we dont want to hurt anyone else,since we have put every1 in enough pain.

thank you jgpimp,u helped.

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