What do I do about my boyfriend not working?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. He is 31 and Im 22.. the age difference isnt the problem. The prblem is he wont work.. He has had temp. job but nothing reg. He always says he will get ajob but just procrastinates about it. I have been supportive and nothing happens..I have been a complete bi* and nothing happens.. It got to a point where I almost ended the realtionship but promises of him working made me rethink the break up… He has two kids 4 and 6 …When they come to visit I have to support them also.. on a min. wage job… I dont mind spending money on them, I just wish he would. I dont want to end things with him I just want him to get a job… When we first meet he didnt have a job then, and I told him I was concerned bc I didnt want to end up supporting him and that is exactly what Im doing… I want to go back to school but I feel like I cant bc I have to work 40 hrs a week and plus we share a car so If I did work and go to school I would have the car the majority of the time soh e wouldnt have a ride to work.. I need some advice.. I dont want o end things I just want him to get JOB!

Answer #1

It’s called being used. Your way too young to be taken advantage of like that. Obviously, you are kind and caring and work hard so it sounds like you have an awful lot going for you. What makes you so attracted to a man so much older than you, with no money, and no willingness to take care of his two children? I don’t mean to sound cruel, but it sounds like you need to take a serious look at your choice in a man,

Answer #2

If going back to school is a very big passion of yours then you need to do whas best for you. If he won’t get a Job then you don’t need to support him any longer. A relationship is supposed to be teamwork… Good luck

Answer #3

Sit him down and tell him that you he needs to be a man and step up. You shouldn’t be supporting you and you need to go after your ambitions. :)

Answer #4

You cannot change him. That is an important lesson you have to learn. You have to change your behavior. Why on earth would he change if you’re supporting him and his kids? What is his motivation? Obviously you leaving isnt going to happen, all he has to do is give you empty promises. Stop supporting him and his kids. If he leaves you to find someone else who will support him financially, then consider yourself lucky.

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