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this is really long, but I need help.. from parents..
im 17 and I smoke.. I picked it up from my "bff" when I was eleven.. I havent been able to quit since.. I know its terrible. I hate myself for it. I steal my dads/moms cigarettes.. and I cant talk to anybody about it bc my boyfriend would brk up with me if I told him. I really dont have close friends to talk to about it.. and I know my dad will check his packs and know ones missing and know I took it..and he'll hate me. bc I've done this a lot of times before.. I feel terrible after I steal a pack.. but I just get that urge and I cant put it back..
I feel like I should tell him that I stole a pack of his cigarettes. but, he'll tell mom, and ill get grounded and then they'll think bad of me.. again.. (see, I've been caught atleast 6 times and have gotten grounded for atleast 5 months each time. but I cant quit) I feel like the worst person ever for stealing cigarettes from my dad.. I know its not right but I feel as if I need to tell him. I just dont want to get grounded and let my boyfriend find out I was smoking again.. I don't know what to do.. I feel like im letting him down..
(my dad isnt VERY strict. he's let me stay the night with my boyfriend, and I tell him a lot of things.. I told him one night I was with my friends and was drinking, he gave me a long lecture but that was it..)
I just need some advice. parents, if your teen had been caught smoking multiple times, and they stole cigarettes from you, what would you do? and would what you do if they came clean and told you?
thank you so much!
Well you could get hold of the NHS because they do those quit smoking courses, and I think they are free.. but you'd have to get your own way there to stop your parent's from finding out, I think they can make it so no one knows your going. Well you could get your dad to hide his packs to stop you taking them, but that would just make your dad find out. I think you should tell at least one person, someone you can trust, maybe someone who used to smoke but gave up, so they know what you're going through.. Try buying those nicotine patches or nicotine gum, I heard they help a lot. Do it for your boyfriend, family and your life. Also you could keep reading risks of smoking, they might persuade you to give up. Well good luck and I hope you succesfully quit. :]
Well, I would give them a lecture and some lies as to why smoking is bad for you (lies like saying cause you started at this age you'll be dead by this exact date or something so stupid and insane that it would scare the kid into stopping). Then, I would call one of those tobacco help lines that all the states seem to provide, see what they can do. Keep my cigarettes better hidden and then try to quit myself (I don't smoke but if I was in their shoes, you know?) just to set an example and make it quality self-improvement family time with the family. Good luck quitting.
