my friend that lives upstairs from me CUTS HERSELF

what I mean is that I want to tell her that its unatural and I disprove of it and I feel just like that

Er, well if she’s cutting herself then going around shouting about it and telling everyone, don’t say anything about it. She’s just doing it for attention

yeah except when it’s a huge cut and bloods splattered on the floor it’s a bit hard to ignore.Some people see the need to prove themselves.That they can’t feel any pain.Maybe their just fooling themselves,maybe they really don’t.

Others cut because it’s a form of punishment from guilt.Or as a sourc eof relief from all the strain they face in life or trauma.These ones are the more quieter ones.They hide their cut marks.

If you want them to stop I suggest you get into their head.Spend time with them and try to see why they do these things.Once your in their flow of thought then you can argue with them.And use it to your advantage.

What I am trying to say is when talking to your friend don’t think like YOU think like HER so it wil make sense when your talking to her.

Tell her that not all goths cut themselves and find an example of a notable goth…??…who doesn’t cut herself…

If she is doing it for attention like she wants to shock people with her attire!her lifestyle or her cutting sessions…try to look more attentive to normal stuff…like a normal girl who deosn’t cut herself..pretend to bemore attracted to them and not noticing her…not so bluntly though…just look at normal things with awe so she can ask herself that maybe her whole drama is not working nor worth it.

The thing is if she is really a true goth then she’s doing it for herself and not for others.

first and foremost thats emo not goth, a goth is a person who is open to others, we embrace the troubles ahead of us as blessings that we are even alive, although we welcome death with arms wide open, we do not get off on self mutilation, we enjoy literature and the arts, we get our stress out hrough reading writing, drawing…etc, she is either crying for attention(metophorically speaking) or is truly upset an confides in self mutilation, watch her and figure out what she is doing. if its attention ignore it its a phase, if its serious try and talk to her, and try and tlk her into getting help

I just wazt to know why would I not say anything because she’s my FRIEND!!! and for your info I dount SHOUT about anthing so thanks darkemogirl, maranna86 THAT was good advice that I could carry out. and it does have something to do becuse she does it around my little bro and sis and lso around her bros and we love her and dont want to see her hurt herself and if you (kingtueseday)didnt have anything positive to say then you didnt have to answer this question TANK YOU ALL FOR THE POSITIVE FEEDBACK

I used to cut myself too until my boyfriend made me stop. You should talk to her and see whats upsetting her. Help her out and if she keeps doing it then she should see some professional help.

what do you mean by tell her about herself? I would suggest to her, that she needs help, because just being gothic doesn’t mean you cut.

That happens when tough patches are happening trough your life, your traing to figure things out and sometimes you have no luck. I use to do it and I do it when I just have too much, try talking to her and tell her that what she is doing could lead to something bad in the future. Cutting is never the answer to anathign but still somanny of us do it. Do her perents now? It would also be a good idea that she/he has someone to talk to and express herself, sometimes people feel alone and find cutting as a getaway.

Well I had the same problem I cut myself because I was going through a tough patch in my life. Yet I got over it through seeing counselors and just telling myself I don’t need to cut myself. People sometimes cut themselves because they feel they need to punish themselves for something they though they did like maybe a family breakup. Being goth doesn’t mean you automatically cut yourself either. Tell her that there are better ways and shes not alone out in the world, it will let her down gently as to not cause anymore possible emotional damage. Or if she says she goth and cuts herself you may want to check into the satanist religion because if she practices it heavily then it does require bloodshed of yourself, a sacraficial animal or another human sacrifice, it can get messy.

Er, well if she’s cutting herself then going around shouting about it and telling everyone, don’t say anything about it. She’s just doing it for attention, and you telling her you disapprove or whatever is only giving her what she wants. Same goes for the ‘gothic’ thing. If that’s not the case… What has it got to do with you? She’s not cutting you or making you be ‘gothic’, so why do you care?