Should i go out with my cousin's friend with benefits?

My cousin has this friend..and lately I was studying abroad for a few months, and we kept in contact (we used to talk every single day..). She didn't really know this. He hinted to her but I never actually told her. Anyhow, when I came back we kinda hooked up. We didn't tell my cousin about this. Things looked great, until I told my mum and she was concerned about my cousin, because she had the feeling that my cousin likes him. So I asked him and he said that they were just very close friends but nothing more. Mum asked my aunt, and turned out that my cousin is really keen on him, and that they sleep together and shit like that!! so I talked with this guy and we decided to put things on hold as we don't want to hurt her.
What kinda confuses me is that they're not going out together, and that she always mentions other guys and stuff. Also, they went abroad with the rest of their friends lately, and she actually pulled other guys in front of him (showed me pics). So I'm like 'does she really like him, or are they just 'friends with benefits?!'
I really really like him, and lately we got talking again and plan on meeting up (we flirt so much when we talk). I really want to go out with him again..but dpn't know if I'm doing the right thing.
And last week my mum actually told me 'hmm you know what, I think they're just friends!!'
Another thing, he's 8 years older than me (I'm 19, he's 27).


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ANSWER #1 of 3

thanks for the replies.
yesterday my mum confessed that she spoke to her sister (my cousin's aunt) and asked her what the deal was between my coz n this guy. my aunt asked her other daughter and their friend, and apparently they said they were just friends. they said that both my cousin n this guy were seeing other ppl (although i didn't know about this other person he was dating). so to a certain extent, i'm relieved that they're not an item or anything...however, what i'm a bit concerned about, is what he expects from me!! the thing is, when we talk, we flirt real about sex n stuff..and i think that next time we go out he'll expect that. (when we went out for the first time..we went for a few drinks then went for some peace in his car..and he fingered me - and that was the first time we saw each other after i came back!!) i'm not easy or anything, so i don't want him get the wrong impression. (i just love flirting).
so i'm a bit worried that that's the only thing he really wants from me..because he probably thinks he can get it. aaaaa i'm going crazzyyy lol

ANSWER #2 of 3

Well it sound like your cousin has skrewed him and maybe a few others,,, and if he has been with her while you two were getting together you should stay away he might be bad news..... but if you really dont care then yeah just talk to her..

Cousins friend...weird?

ANSWER #3 of 3

This is simple, once take a big breath and mention to your cousine that once just by chance you hooked up with this man, and you enjoyed his company. Watch your cousin's reacion, and you will see that what is the real situation between them.

Whats with friends with benefits?

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