Wanting to rebel?

Me and my mom always fight. But the things she’s been saying to me have really been getting to me lately, I’ve recently lost my best friend and feel like my summer has been very terrible so far. I’ve never been a bad daughter. I’m her oldest and she just has always seemed to like my little sister better.

But anyways, I have the sudden urge to just rebel and do whatever I want. Dumb stuff- like smoke & have sex.

I know I’m smarter than that and never would, but I just feel so down because of her negativity towards me):

What should I do ?

Answer #1

well I dont think you should ever base your very personal decisions on the actions of others…no matter who it is…smoking or having sex will likely affect you more than her…she may get mad..but mostly out of love for you…wanting the best for you…though I understand what its like to have a rough time with a mother…(mine is never there for me…she doesnt live with me) I actually chose to better myself because of her..not worsen myself…that’ll really show her in the end…see my mom was an addict and and alcoholic…so I do the complete opposite and live a straight-edged life style…and basically shove it in her face…if you want to get more in detail about it…message me or somethin..cause what exactly did you fight about?

you might want to talk to her about it…even though your communication is rough with her…its your best bet…tell her exactly how you feel about the negative comments..and tell her it’s not right…cause its not…regardless of what they are…just never let your negativity get the best of you…I have..and it only leads to bad roads

Answer #2

tell her you love her, give her a hug, and walk away

Because if you hear yourself say that and mean it, then you will “remind” yourself of your love for her and the things she says will affect you less. At least, that’s what my therapist says

Answer #3

same here, actually annoys me. my brother is getting all the attention! I dono what to do, just do the thing you want to do, if someone tells you thats rong, tell them its becos of them! thats what I’ve done. made them upset and reaslised what they doen to me

Answer #4

dude rebel. stand up for what you think is right and tell her exactly how you feel. and if she wont listen then blow up in her face. then listen to the song revolution by the kottonmouth kings =)

Answer #5

so normal its not even funny its the same way in my family I’ve never been anything to be proud of but I was never bad but my brother was a perfect angel to them when he grew up so id say that you should try and work with your mom and see why shes so mad at you maybe change a couple things but dont change who you are or what you like to do just see if she changes if you do a few things she wants and let me know.

Answer #6

Okay basically everybody goes through this, I’ve been through this too and I must say. Just don’t do anything! Don’t go get drunk, don’t go have sex or smoke or anything! You will get over this point in your life and when you do you will be proud that you never did any of those things. Trust me getting drunk, having sex, and smoking just for a period of time when your confused and you want to rebel is not worth it. Instead you might be addicted for the rest of your life to one of those things. Trust me things will brighten up soon everyone goes through this at least once, all you have to do is remember who you are and stay true to yourself. Never forget that.

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