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ok well me and my boyfriend of almost 11 months, are in a long distance relationship, and we are fighting over stupid things, is this common? I mean he is in college and he is 18 and I am 17 and a senior in high school, I don’t like being mad at him and being involved in stupid fights, I care about him but why is this happening??? advice needed ASAP

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Answer #1

Zeroxtreem is completely right. I am in the same situation as the both of you. Long distance sis the crappiness. I can totally relate to getting angry at them about every little thing but like Zeroxtreem said every issue you argue about is really just being angry about the long distance issue. The issue is that when you are a teenage girl it is thirty times worse when you are PMSing and all that business and you can justify all your anger. When I got really angry at Brian or thought that he had lost his feelings for me I would always go back and read all the poetry I had written about him and it would remind me of what we actually had. So if you have a goofy picture or a sweet email that sort of defines your feelings, just remind yourself to look at it when you are angry. The fighting may not stop, but it may be less fighting and more trying to work things better through discussion. I hope it goes well for you and the rest of us in these raunchy situations.

Answer #2

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a little longer than a year and a half. Stupid fights are all-too-common.

Even in REGULAR relationships, stupid fights are common. They are just that - stupid. If they have some kind of impact in your relationship, then they are more significant than stupid fights, however, something you need to realize is - this will ALWAYS happen. Always.

You cannot date, be engaged, or be married to someone, and not have those days where you just fight. It’s healthy, it’s natural, and most of all - unavoidable. It’s not possible to spend a lot of time with one person and not get into arguments or fights. That’s just how it is :)

Don’t let it bother you.

My girlfriend and I went through that stage where for about a month or two we just fought, literally, every other day. It’s kind of hard being in a long distance relationship, as obviously the distance can get to you and be the source of your fights. You get mad that you can’t be there for someone and the distance upsets you, and it frustrates you, which usually causes the fight.

What you need to do is get online, or on the phone, however it is that you communicate with him, and talk to him. Would it be better to stop the relationship? Would it be better to continue on but get over the fights? See what, if anything, the real issue is.

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Answer #3

Ahahahahahah you should see the fights my boyfriend and I get in, talk about stupid!

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