How do I keep trusting my bf while he's away?

lol did i ever tell you that girl admitted to lying about when it all happened? it happened before me. He showed me pictures of him and some of the army guys on the same date she said they were together.. ANYWAY…. I’d feel too guilty having somebody spy on him, but we can’t anyway, he’s on base lol

Relationships are built on love and trust and for love you also need to trust.. so you know if you cant trust him are you sure you should be with him? I dont know what you two have been through or what he has done so that you cannot trust him but a relationship without trust is not a strong one. If you are really that worried try and keep in touch with him as much as possible so he knows just how much you care and yes i know how difficult that is when they are in the army, so maybe try send him things in the post like letters objects that mean something to you and him and so on. hope this helped! :)

Trust is part of the relationship, if you don’t trust him, it won’t work out. Spying on him, checking up on him, etc…is only going to push him away, and make him feel like what’s the point if she doesn’t even trust me? In my opinion, if you don’t trust a guy, then you shouldn’t be with him, or you should learn to trust them…No relationship ever works without love, trust, and commitment.

well said…agreed!

My Oipnion: If he has never done anything that has betrayed your trust. then you have to trust him. Trust is something we give somebody for free. The problem is; the person whom we are in a relationship with at the present time is a victim of things that were done to us in the past by others. We need to unerstand this, and give our present partner a fair shake. Trust is for free. I dont earn it. and it is mine until I betray it.

I didn’t realize how hard it is dating someone in the army when his base is less than an hour away from me. The army is very demanding and unpredictable, so sometimes he’ll say he’s coming this weekend and then the last minute he’ll say he can’t… I know it’s the army, but I can’t help but wonder if it’s always true. I know this is coming from what has happened in the past.. my dad always went out on my mom (saying he was ‘’working”) and then later my mom went out on my dad (saying she was ‘’seeing her mom’’ or ‘’shopping’’) Bleh.. it’s really hard… It’s not that I don’t trust specifically him… I don’t trust ANYBODY

That sounds kinda hard. You seem like you feel good about yourself, and that is huge. I was a soldier for a long time, all I can say is if he cheats on you, he is the one who loses. :)

well if he has always been trustful and ur both in love then u dont got to worry

i think you needa just trust him…. if he doesnt seem to be acting different or anything then dont worry. im sure if he didnt wanna be with you he would have told you or something wouldve happened already. :)

It’s hard being in army, I am sure he really appreciates all that you do for him while he is gone, and I am sure he hurts just as much as you hurt when he can’t come home last minute. I doubt he would lie when he is only an hour away it’s not like a realllly long drive or going through the airport b.s. and the fact that you could check up on him! I can understand where you are coming from, but it’s a personal choice to trust someone, and I agree with not trusting anybody, but that makes it hard to be in a real relationship if you don’t have trust. Has he ever made you think you shouldn’t trust him? If not, I wouldn’t worry, I mean everyone always has the annoying little voice reminding you that he COULD be lying, but that’s it, if you don’t know for sure I wouldn’t accuse him or anything. I am sure you are just lonely and have a lot of time to think and over think. Good luck hope everything works out!

if you dont trust him , how can you say you love him?? , trust is the BASIC foundation in a relationship, if he breaks the trust or has done something like that before which may give you a slight reason to be thinking this way , then you have 2 choices work it out or give up and save yourself from this torment! i know how you feel , ive been here and i have managed to work it out with the person so its not impossible , you have just gotta confront him about this and talk it out,let him reassure you, its not the ideal relationship, him being so far , but be positive and if you really love him and he love you , ye can work this out xxxxxx

Its a very hard situation. I myself am an army wife. My husband is deployed at this very moment. To be honest my main worry is his saftey now. While he was in basic and ait I was always worried about cheating. But that worry faded away with time. It is actually pretty hard to hold a realationship or have one with another solider in your unit. My friend is also in the army and dating a guy in her unit. Even.though they are in the same place they are given.no time together. As long as you trust your boyfriend you will be just fine. Communication is key. Keep in touch as often as you can. A main reason why military people cheat is because they dont feel cared about by their significant other. Keep the bond strong with phone calls, emails, letters, and packages. If you cant make it work when hes gone for short periods of time you will never make it through a 12 month deployment. Goodluck!

Tell him that you trust him 100% But if he mess’s up then basically kiss you good bye. No need to be jealous of any girl, b.c you know your awesome! If he cheats her cheats… you cant stop a cheater so just hope your bfs a good one =)

No worries. It’s unlikely that your boyfriend is screwing around. He’s too busy being lobotomized by your country’s military. Rest assured he’ll come back a trustworthy, hardworking, faithful robot that you’ll at times fail to recognize. Don’t be afraid though, I’m only babbling about conspiracy theories. Truth is, he’s too busy to be thinking about T&A of any kind during rotation. That’s a very demanding portion of military ops. Stop being paranoid.