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Torn between boyfriend and parents

I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 25, we’ve been together for a little over 2 1/2 years now. He is an extremely sweet guy who I totally trust and honestly know he just wants whatevers best for me, he is willing to do anything to keep me happy. My parents on the other hand do not approve of him for a number of reasons stereotypes about race and the fact that he has not yet finished school. My parents try to blame him to everything, my parents are somewhat strict and basically have my life planned for me they don’t hold me in totally but expect a lot out of me and feel like he is not fit for me, I feel otherwise. I know parents always want what’s best for their children but it has gotten to the point where it is effecting my relationship with my boyfriend tremendously, they keep telling me to not take the relationship seriously, I feel like I am torn into two world and trying to bring them together…I just want advice from others on whether I should just try and live life the way it makes me happy, because they do not understand my position, they feel that at my age I’m not ready for a serious relationship when from others that I see it is not abnormal to be in a serious relationship at my age…

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Your an adult - your not a little child. If you don’t agree with your parents views or rules - you can earn your own money and move out of their house. As long as you live there though, you are subject to their rules, opinions, and ideas about things. If you want to be mature - move out of their house and earn your own money. As long as they are supporting you - they can control you.

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