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Too good to be true?

There is this guy who I met back in may through some friends. he was really cute and after hanging out a few times we hooked up one night (no sex). we didnt talk over the summer becuase I moved to italy for a little while. now that I’m back at school in the us, he calls and talks to me a lot. I’ve been kind of distant from him and we havent been involved as more than friends since we came back. part of the reason is I have a hard time trusting guys from past relationships. I don’t want to hook up with him because I’m afraid he might just be using me. I have no evidence or reason to believe this other then the fact that hes a guy which is probably not a good reason. he also txts me a lot when hes drunk begging me to come over. I just feel like how could he really like me for more than my looks and what he thinks he knows about me if I havent really shown him most of my personality since I’ve been so reluctant to let him get near me. do you think I am unfairly judging him or do you think its also a little weird to think he really likes me when he hardly knows me?

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Answer #1

Hi “too good to be true?”

From what you wrote, I think you are unfairly judging this guy just because he’s a guy. Yes you’ve had bad experiences in the past before, but it’s not fair to put all guys in the same catagory because of that. He may very well be a great guy. If he wanted to use you, he probably would have tried something already. If he’s texting you a lot when he’s drunk and wants you to come over, find out why! People get real honest when they’ve had a few too many. Be aware you’ve been hurt before, but give this guy a chance and open up a little. I’d still be cautious to a certain degree to keep yourself safe, but in any relationship, when you’ve fallen off the horse, it’s best to get up, dust yourself off and get back on! The same applies to relationships. There’s that old saying, “it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved before!” It’s not weird that he really likes you when you haven’t opened up to him. Normally there is an instantaneous attraction between people, but he probably wants to learn more about you. Be open and honest, trust your instinct and let him in a little at a time! Sincerely, Chris Psychotherapist

Answer #2

Go out with him and don’t give your body to him so easily and if he stays with you then he aint using you most likely

Answer #3

well honestly. its not hooking up if you guys didnt have sex… what did you just go on a date?

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