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My bf and i decided it would be easier to get a place and pay the bills with roommates. I don't know how i feel about this cuz i've only ever lived with just him or my family. Needless to say my bf has a friend and his gf in mind. I'm a little concerned because there a bit older than me and they smoke pot and my bf does occasionally.and i don't prefer not to. Thats 3 against 1. He reassured me that they wouldn't do in the house and they would pick up after themselves and buy there own food. thoughts to make me feel better about the situations? i really want to move back in together to make our life easier.
Whatever doubts you have now will only lead to disputes later. Fallow your gut feeling. You're right to be edgy about moving in with your boyfriends friends since you don't know them and they have a bad habit that also affects your relationship. Ways to remedy the problem are: choose people you don't know as a couple so it's easier to fix problems when they arise, write a contrat as collen said so everyone starts of on the same page (this is not fool proof) or instead of moving in with your boyfriend get your own place with roomates for a year to think it over and learn the dynamics of group living.
If you plan to live with roommates have a written agreement that all parties must sign and have a copy given to. This lays out who pays for what and who's responsible for what and inform the roommates that if they skip out on the lease before it's up you and the other roommates can take legal action since they are not responsible for paying your part of the rent.
well my bf and his friend will be at work most the time cuz they work 1:30 p.m to 3 a.m and i also work about 30 hours a week. i know his friend and he's very respectable about me choosing not to smoke. but i don't no his gf and she doesn't have job but apparently she does clean alot, and keeps to herself.
One thing I've learned from rooming with friends - it will make or break the relationship. Make sure that before you get into a situation that makes you miserable, you write up an iron-clad contract that outlines the expectations of everyone involved.
i don't have friends that are socially close to me, only girls i talk to i work with. but if i want to live with him i guess i'll have to compromise alittle, and deal with his friend and gf.
what the roomate movie. lol. just kidding i guess let them move in but if things are not working out just tell them they need to leave
I think having someone socially close to you will help you make friends and have a close one living with you.
