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who thinks i am being unresonable?

Where do i start,im 22 and have been with my partner for 4 years. I have recently discovered i am 2 months pregnant with his baby.He doesnt think it his. We have both been a unfaithful in the last year,we were going through a bad time and i kissed another guy while he was having an internet affair.Both were wrong and we both know this and now as you can imagine we have a few trust issues. Now i am trying to make things work because of the baby,i want a proper family and i want this little one growing up with its dad,unlike me and i hated it. I have said to him to prove im not with anyone else, he can go through my phone and emails whenever he wants without argueing about it. I also go round my mums everyday and he doesnt think im there,he thinks im with nother guy(which im not) so i have said to him call her house phone and i will be there.HE STILL DOESNT BELIEVE ME. I have asked him why he wont let me do the same,he is very protective over his phone and wont let me watch him while he is in his email account and he wonders why i still think he i cheating.Im tired of getting stressed out but i really dont know whay to do. Is it wrong of me to ask to check his phone and emails like i openly let him do with mine???? please help.

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Answer #1

I think

that you need to get out of this relationship. Both of you(as you know) obviously has trust issues and bringing a baby into a relationship like this is just looking for trouble. The poor child is going to be stuck in this mess that you two created.

You do not have to live or marry someone for them to be a good father, that is and will be his choice, all you will be able to to is to force alimony out of him. You do after get married couples, where the man is at home, but not involved in the childs life.

Also I think that it is wrong that your boyfriend has to PROVE that you are not faithful and for you to demand the same, it puts stress on the relationship and you need to think of your child now and not about playing all these are you cheating on me games with your current boyfriend

Answer #2

I agree with crazy…..the relationship sounds like it’s on it’s last legs (he doesn’t want you to see HIS phone, because he has something to hide)….No matter what you are doing to preserve the relationship, it doesn’t sound to me like he’s on the same page….he’s still up to his old stuff.

Now, just because the relationship doesn’t go on, doesn’t mean that he can’t be a good dad (you might have to do a paternity test, to prove it to him….frankly, I’d bet my right arm that he KNOWS this baby is his)….But, why bring this babe into a bad thing? Your first responsibility now, is to that baby, and having no father is better than being brought up in constant tension and fighting.

Answer #3

I think that you should just get out of the relationship. I mean he can always still be there for the baby true it wont be the same but if he is a man he will support the baby you should talk to him about this as well though ask him straight up what his deal is me and my boyfriend openly let each other check our emails and phones and we are doing great but if he wont let you then he def has something to hide and he isnt worth your time you need someone you trust and trusts you.

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