Who thinks that people who talk about being depressed display narcissistic behaviour?

I think they do, yes.

Well wouldn’t that be a contradiction of each other?

People who are depressed, simply by definition, are extremely self absorbed. It is extrordinarily difficult to focus on the outside world or anyone else with depression. So whether they are on here talking about it, or talking about it to friends/family or to their therapist, they are going to come off as extremely self absorbed. Having said that, depression has its various forms. The “shut down” version that they love to show on TV is just one of the more extreme forms. I have seen that form of slowed down speech, inability to concentrate, difficulty focusing, oversleeping, etc etc. But there’s a lot of different symptoms that can include extreme agitation, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, etc etc. When you’ve got a more active form of depression, instead of the ‘numbness’ you often hear about, individuals will complain of being in a lot of emotional pain, or being haunted by terrible thoughts, suicidal ideation, etc. I’ve personally seen that version of depression more in teens. In those situations, when someone gets really desperate, they will try to get help in any way possible. So I dont necessarily agree with you, I dont think everyone who is seeking help is just looking for attention. I will add to that though. There are people who do appear to come online to seek attention, and they will do it by extracting sympathy from others. That isnt the same as narcissism. Narcissists expect attention simply because they feel they deserve it. Attention seeking is done because a person feels something missing and they are desperately seeking for other’s approval, other’s acceptance, other’s caring etc. They can come off as being very similar, but they are in fact very different. It’s almost like factitious disease or maybe the more familiar Munchausen’s syndrome. It can be irritating but at the end of the day it is indicative of something missing in the person’s life.

I agree…it tends to have many different sides to depression…some caused because of a series of events & some due to illnesses…

I just re looked something up a few days ago because of a post on here…I remember the doctor saying something to me about some illness I have…”COD” AKA “PCOS” so many signs i was experiencing thinking it was due to other things but depression is another symptom I didnt realize could come from that…I thought it was just a series of events in my past & my life in general which have caused me to feel so depressed that I would question so many different options.

Its seems to vary from case to case & I personally thank TY for all the generous help…sometimes like i said a total stranger can be the sweetest, kindest friend that can help you realize things by looking at them from a different angle! (huge hug…for being real to me & not just sugar coating it! I am eternally grateful for you taking the time to talk to me much love! ♥)

agreed..i know it sure has helped open my eyes to hear other friends opinions on the issues…especially if they see it in an objective way rather then sugar coat it up for ya & say ahhh, it’s be ok…your wonderful & good things will happen for ya…rather then saying look, you have to stand up for yourself & push yourself harder to break through the hardest chains to survive…because sometimes its really what we need to hear to make the decision to say enough is enough…if I dont stand up for myself no one will do it for me…if I want help I have to do it in steps…

1. ask for help…
2. really take into consideration that what is being said is for my benefit rather then getting defensive & trying to find excuses for just taking the abuse and hoping that one day it stops…well it wont til you make it stop!
3. Use that information to really think about how to begin solving the problem…like getting the right help for it!
4. never forget to thank the one(s) who have been there holding your hand and rooting you all the way till the finish line!

I know this because I am one…one that has been through a lot…

To all of those that have helped me…I thank you from the bottom of my heart…you know whom you are! much love! ♥

i think its good that there speaking there mind where they feel confterable insead of keeping it inside because even if it gets abit annoying they need help. i use to have depression and i got help. mine was genetic and im not self absobred, i was just sad. for no reason but i couldnt sleep, i ate alot and watched tv cuz i felt safe. i would fall asleep crying and i was afraid to make friends. i got help and now im told by alot of friends that im funny and have a big personality that i would have never have been if i havnt spoke my mind while i was still young. so i do not agree with you

:) I’m still waiting for people to get upset with my bluntness, but it seems to be working well so far. You are always welcome to share, you know that.