who thinks that dating friends they've known for a long time is ok and safe?

but will it end up ruining our friendship?

I agree with mandyloo. A lot of the strongest, healthiest relationships come out of being friends with someone first . But Im sure there is that thought in the back of your mind of “What if we break up and it ruins our friendship?” Still, I think if you love each other and want to be together nothing should stop you .

KK thanks for the advice!! ;3

Yes, dating friends is good because you already have a foundation in your relationship. And there’s trust there, so you already have something to build off of. But the only thing to think about in dating friends is what’ll happen if you guys ever break it off. Because mutual friends may split and tension may start. You may not be able to be friends anymore after a romantic conflict. Just a thing to keep in mind.

Yorue welcome ! (:

There’s this guy I’ve been friends with since we were 7 years old. He was my first friend when I moved out here. And 7 years later, he finally asked me out. We dated for a while… and it was great. We broke up later on, but we still talk everyday like nothing ever happened. lol. If your friendship is strong enough, you guys will be okay. The only thing I think can ruin it is if you guys hurt each other during your relationship. But I wouldn’t think of AFTER the break up. Just take one step at a time, and enjoy what’s in front of you right now.

k thanks for the advice ;3

k will do!! ;3

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me & my gf were close friends for 2 years & now we are in love so i think it doesnt matter how do you know that person as long as you have feelings to him

k thanks ;3

my gf was a friend for years, she asked me out and i was very suprised… i would say it would be difficult to be like we were before going out if we did break up, but its been great so far and i say go for it!

I think it is ok and safe. Two of my best friends (been friends for years) have recently started dating and this is the happiest I have ever seen both of them.

It could ruin a friendship, but if both you and the guy are sure that you want to take it to a different level, then I see no reason why it should be excellent.

Good luck!

Ok, from someone that has been there & done that…I have to disagree… For one keep your friends as friends & your lovers as lovers! Never mix the 2 together!

If you are great friends to begin with for a long time there is a good reason for that, because you belong together as friends. I tried it many times before and learned the hard way that it just hurts too much to wind up loosing the friends you cherish because you think or assume that the relationship will last as long as your friendship did plus interest!

Here is the last time I tried it…my own personal story…you dont have to agree with me but its worth the read! I knew this guy for like 3 years, same horoscope, so we were practically best friends…laughed non stop got along as best as only 2 people could be. I never gave it much thought about ever pursuing anything more then a best friendship because I knew what always happens, who winds u being hurt & why it never works out…but he convinced me to just give him a try, so I did! In the beginning everything was awesome(usually is the honey stage) first argument…and he got really jealous…something he never did & i couldnt get used to that! The second argument over something stupid…the third argument & we agreed to never fight again(always does) by the 5th argument he pulled away slightly gave me the run around…said: “I hv been sick & have not been feeling well a lot lately, not trying to avoid you or anything!” after a while all was fine, gets a call a few weeks later & he says we need to break up & doesnt even explain why! I was shocked…because the next day he called and asked me to forgive him that he was having issues with his personal stuff & just lost it….I said fine…but something changed in me…I got hurt! I was so hurt I couldnt have a convo without tearing up, started getting quiet and didnt feel much like talking or anything else for that matter. He swore we were soul mates, meant to be together, and no matter what he would find a way but things were just a bunch of hot air…I told him from the get go…Dont play me, dont hurt me because I have been hurt enough in my life…if things werent gonna happen between us then just to say so…but he spoke in riddles & said patience is a virtue…dont give up on us…not just yet…as he slowly pulled more away from me. I lost my relationship with him, and also my friendship with him…he was the love of my life…but now gone from me…and that is why you never mix friends with relationships.

Keep your friends as your friends…and your relationships just that…once you turn it into something more you risk loosing the best friend you ever had…and wind up cursing yourself for ever giving it a second thought…I know I did…If I wouldnt have accepted his offer as taking it to the next level we still would hv been friends til this day!
Learn from my mistake…

Good Luck!

Its a great idea! Most of the time when you have known someone for so long, they have seen you at your worst. Knowing that through your worst they still accept you is a great feeling and a great foundation for trust.

it sucks, dont try it. i’ve done it, it doesnt work.

Also, i just want to add. you already know your friend at their worst. It’s up to you if you think it is safe dating your friend.

My best friend of 4 years turned out to be my boy it really sprouted beautifully! :) best of luck!

wow that’s long but good advice

idk but i dnt think its really safe becuse my 2 friends r dating friends (wer like a big group) n trust me ders always suprises… one didnt treat his gf right ignored her n basically stepped all over her n da other gets mad so easily n starts yelling at her n pulin on her these r guys dat i never expected to do this bcuz they are really good friends but i guess sumtimes some guys r better friends den boyfriends

I’m sorry you had to go through that. :( I’ve been through a very similar situation. I am, however, aware that it doesn’t always turn out like that. Btw, that was a total douche bag move on his part! If it makes you feel any better, hey may have eventually been a douche bag of a friend too…… don’t take offense…..I suck at making people feel better lol

Yeah!