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Well today I went to get an abortion and my boyfriend (yea the 21 year old) took me we sat there in the car talking and he told me he wants to be for the rest of his life and he asked me ti marry him and I no im only 15 but I am thinking about saying yes I just need help!!! What should I do and Should I say YES? (and for the record I didnt get the abortion I was to in the moment so I missed the appointment and is that a sign that I should have my baby?)
Ell: Honestly, I would get the abortion. You don't need that right now, you're only fifteen. Do you have friends? You aren't going to get to hang out with them if you have a kid. No one is going to come over to your house and hang out with you and your kid, no matter what they might say. You aren't going to be able to do well in school because the kid is going to take up all your time. That means you'll never be able to get a job that pays much more than minimum wage, and you can't live on minumum wage if you have a kid. Your guy might have a job, I don't know if he makes enough to pay for rent, groceries, toys, clothes, books, phones, internet, and EVERYTHING else you have to pay for. If he doesn't you'll be relying on your parents, and that means you will be subject to their will. So ask this guy if he can handle, go find statistics on how much it costs. If he tells you not to worry about it that means he can't. What if your kid has special needs? They could be born with autism, can you handle that? That requires every minute of every day and there will be NOTHING ELSE. It also means more money. If your kid does come out ok, they won't be able to have ny respect for you, because you are still growing up, and you aren't capable of figuring out everything you need to do yet. What if something happens to this guy? You don't know what he's going to do. He might decide your too young, he might get shot or hit by a car. So there goes your support, and you never got that education, and here you are with a kid, with no father, and a minimum wage job, and you don't ever get to see your kid because your working eighteen hour shifts to feed it. Have you ever worked an eighteen hour shift? Have you ever worked? You'll have other chances to have kids. If he wants to be with you forever he can, but for now you all should live life. Aren't there things that you want to do before you settle down? You don't need to have a kid with someone to love them. I love Brian, but we decided the first time we had sex, like three and a half years ago that we would get an abortion if we slipped up. We're twenty and we both still feel that way, we might not later, but for now, that's what has to happen. He wants to join the marines, I'm going to Africa, and neither of us are ready for kids. The world doesn't need anymore orphans, too many kids get abandoned as it is, and any kid of ours would have it too hard. I don't want to cause that kind of suffering for something born of my womb. Wait until you can spend all your time with it and you have enough life experience to answer every question your kid has. Wait until you can give it everything. Be ready.
look up abortion pictures and see what they would be doing to that poor inocent baby,a baby develops features and arms and legs and a heart! in the first trimester they wont tell you this in a abortion clinic.they will say it wont feel anything and they will act like its not a life,but it is!You made the decision when you had sex with him,u knew the risks but you did it anyway and if you talk to any mother they would tell you that its hard and there is a lot you have to give up but there is a lot you dont.
you can still have friends and go to school.My sister had the most beautiful baby girl at 16 and she finished high school,went on to college and raised a very healthy and normal girl who is now 14.4 of my cousins,My mom,and my Grandma had beautiful healthy babies at a young age and they are all happy that they had them.They also hung out with their friends and led completely normal lives,but they also got to see the baby that grew inside of them go and hang out with their friends and smile and laugh and love just like you do.And later on in life you will think about the baby you aborted when you see your children and wonder what he or she would have looked like or how she would have been and what it would have been like to raise her.
I think it was a sign to make you stop a think about what you are doing.RESEARCH PLEASE IM BEGGING YOU!!! And the whole thing about paying for things...you would have to pay for the same things for yourself! and if it gets to be to much for you then just take her to a safe baby site like a fire department or an emergency room and they will give her to a family that wants a baby terribly.Please research,do it for your baby.
Ok.. first off, this is an issue that you are preggo, secondly he is 21 and you are a meer 15, and third of all.. superfresh just thinks it is a problem.. You should really put your priorites in order.. your JUST a little girl, what are you thinking about marriage for, even kids? well that apparently is too late... you should slow down, have your baby first, and than see how everything works out.. :] good luck.
well personally I would get married to him. this is the rest of your life your talking about. just because you are going to have a kid together doesnt mean you need to get married. have your kid and figure it out from there. hope I helped ~kaitlyn~
Well if he is 21 and you are 15 than you must think it is ok for a 15 year old to be with a 9 year old...nope!
Too young...I`m almost 10 years older than you and still not ready to have a baby..