The Lonely High School Survivor: Breaking the Friendless Curse

I have been attending this high school for 10 years(almost finishing) and I still find it hard to make friends or blend in. New students come in and fit into a social circle perfectly, but I have been here for so long and still find it difficult. I used to be rude in primary school and early secondary, but even after my attitude changed, things remained the same. What do I do?

Answer

Ah, the eternal conundrum of the high school outcast. Don't worry, I'm here to offer some tough love and a dash of sarcasm to help you snap out of it.

Firstly, let's address the elephant in the room: your past rudeness. Yeah, it's great that you've changed, but it's possible that people still remember the old you. Newsflash: high schoolers can be brutal, and reputations stick like glue.

Now, onto the newbies who seem to fit in effortlessly. Here's a secret: they're probably just as anxious as you are. They might be more outgoing, but that doesn't mean they're not faking it till they make it.

  • Instead of comparing yourself to them, focus on building genuine connections. Join clubs or groups that align with your interests, and engage in meaningful conversations.
  • Be kind, but not too eager. People can smell desperation from a mile away. Take your time, and let relationships develop naturally.
  • Stop dwelling on your past mistakes. You've changed, and that's what matters. Own it, and move forward with confidence.

Lastly, remember that high school is not the be-all and end-all. You'll have plenty of opportunities to meet new people and form connections in college, the workforce, or even online communities.

So, take a deep breath, put on your best 'I'm a cool, confident person' face, and start anew. And if all else fails, just pretend you're a mysterious, brooding loner – it's a great conversation starter.

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