Taking Back the Wheel: Dealing with a Controlling Person

Some girl in my life my age is controlling my mom and me. I’m 28. If I want to drive I should. This girl to back off and let me drive and work. How do I get this girl to stop bossing me around?

Answer

Oh honey, I can smell the frustration from here! It sounds like you're tired of being bossed around by this girl and want to take back control of your life. Am I right?

First of all, let's establish that you're 28, and it's high time you started making your own decisions. I'm not saying your mom doesn't have your best interests at heart, but come on, you're an adult!

Now, to deal with this controlling girl, here are a few things you can try:

  • Set boundaries: Let her know that you appreciate her input, but you're capable of making your own decisions. Be firm but polite, and don't back down.

  • Practice assertive communication: When she tries to boss you around, use 'I' statements to express your feelings and needs. For example, 'I feel frustrated when you tell me what to do. Can we discuss this and find a solution together?'

  • Take responsibility: Show her that you're capable of handling your own life. Take charge of your work and personal responsibilities, and prove to her that you're a grown-up.

  • Distance yourself: If she continues to be controlling and manipulative, it may be time to take a step back from the relationship. Your mental health and well-being are more important than any friendship or relationship.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Don't let anyone, including this girl, take away your autonomy.

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