Stupid Parents

first of all, I have to ask…why do you need a loan for your very first car? I had a beater and it survived for 3 years…and it was $400! it may not be a hot looking thing, but it gets you the freedom you are so desperately wanting. instead of asking your parents for financial oriented help, or expecting them to put their credit at risk with a loan, ask them instead for advice and parental guidance kind of help. talk to them about if you are able to raise the $ for a junker, would they be willing to help you find the best deal for your money, and guide you in securing the appropriate insurance, as well. and honestly, in most states you will have to be on their insurance…which means, if you have an accident or speeding ticket, their insurance goes up! so if they still say no…you will have to understand…oh and btw, your parents are doing their job. dont hate them for it. raising the future generation of tomorrow isnt easy. yes, parents make mistakes…just like your mom saying mean things. but I can promise you she loves you! I have a 15 year old and he knows just how to get under my skin when we are in an arguement. I love him dearly, and would give my life for him if need be…but yes, I say mean things sometimes too…just like he says mean things to me. being a teen is not easy… you are not a kid, not an adult…but somewhere in between. raising a teen is not easy…they are not a kid, not an adult…but somewhere in between. parents dont always know how to handle a situation. maybe your mom doesnt know how to tell you that it scares her that you are dating because she doesnt want to see your heart broken, or she is afraid you will not make wise choices if in a compromising situation. maybe that is why she is attacking your boyfriend. she may not know how to tell you how she really feels. its hard knowing how to relate to your once little baby, now almost a woman/man! just try to be understanding, and know that your parents do love you.

I can see where they are coming from with the whole loan idea. They probley don’t feel that you have a steady income coming in to pay for that loan. If you don’t pay for that loan then a line of credit could be completely damaged and thats serious. About the grades… they just want you to get good grades so you have a bright future. I wish my parents had of annoyed me about my grades because then I would have gotten better grades then I did. Everyone says mean things sometimes, you just have to learn to deal with it. Your mom could be going through menopause right now which could be causing her to do those weird things, and you have to understand that. I think you just need to learn to deal with your problems and figure out ways to make a situation better instead of making it worse by fighting.

I would give you advice on this but you wouldn’t like it. . . After reading over your question 4 or 5 times I think what you need is a way to blow off some steam. . .Try punching a pillow. . . in the U.S. you cannot have a car title in your name till your 18 so your parents would be responsible for anything that happened involving that car. your only 16 and like most 16 yr olds full of piss and vinegar, You think your parents are against you and the world is full of morons. . . Guess what… your parents have been there. . . why don’t you start by giving them a little respect and honor. . . they care about your grades because believe it or not that will decide whether you compete for executive jobs or janitorial jobs. . . they really have your best interest in mind. . . I suggest you prove to them with your grades and choices that you are responsible. Get a part time job flipping burgers. ( that’s what my brother did and now he makes 70K a year.) then get into lower management jobs and work your way up… Seen where you want to be a nurse. . .good bedside manors which all nurses need start at home. . .