what can i do to stop this?

You both are just really shy, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Spending time with your boyfriend doesn’t necessarily mean that it will conflict with school. I live with my boyfriend and we both still manage to get on the dean’s list every semester (we’re in college). You should just ask him to hang out one on one together on a weekend. Finish your homework first if that will make you feel better before you hang out with him. Don’t go see a movie though, because you’ll both just be sitting there. Go to the mall, go out to dinner, or just take a walk together in the park. Or whatever! It doesn’t matter, just do things together one on one and you’ll both begin to feel more comfortable around each other in no time. :)

Make and effort to spend time together outside of school. I know you guys are busy and that is very normal for students! It’s great the both of you are making school first place, you won’t regret it later on. Mark one day off, perhaps when you both are done being extremely busy like after exam period, take that day to spend with one another, dinner, have a meal, go to each other’s house, play games, laser tag, whatever your pleasure! But make an effort to have that day at least once, say, a week, or bi-weekly. It really helps to have one full day of fun with your significant other when both of you are busy. It helps remind you two you still care for each other, and allows you both to continue to grow and further your relationship. My boyfriend and I, and especially him, are both extremely busy with university and work but we make an effort to spend at least one day, every other week, doing things together, giving each other our complete attention. Makes me feel less neglected and closer to him after being busy.

Aditi let me first of all congratulate you guys that even after these many years you guys are going strong, touch wood !

We - me and my gal also went through the same thing early, it build lots of frustration and despair on many occasions but dont let this come between you. I agree that when it happens in front of you its pretty hard to overlook but, mark my point that getting good grades is also a must, without career it would be difficult for both of u guys !!

after your exams you will get plenty of time to spend with eachother !! both are important and both need to be given priority in life !!

Honestly, this sounds like me and my boyfriend, too. It’s just really awkward when your friends seem like they’re in a perfect relationship and you’re just the awkward wheel in the friendship, right? I know how that feels. Honestly, tell him on the phone since you guys talk that I know we both cares about our grades and all, but I feel like we’re more in a friendship not a relationship.. and that’s what I want to feel like, in love. Just be honest, if he cares he’ll listen.. trust me, best way to go :) OMG you guys were together long, so he really should be understanding ;)

hey am happy that you guys have been together for long time and still counting :) ay to go!!!. i have experienced this problem many times in my relationships over the years and my strategy to solve this monster problem is to communicate how you feel about the problem .Its really great that you both care about school and your test grades but is great to work on both (getting good grades for your upcoming test and you relationship) so after you tell him about how u feel try and come up with ways to work on both for example make a time table in which you will set times for study and time for talking or meet. you can spicy up things by sending cute text in between study( e.g hey baby i miss u :* just want u to know your baby is thinking about yuh! ) and that will surly put a smile on his face and he will definitely keep in touch after study.

Thanks everyone. I’ll try doing the things you guys suggested and i’ll let you all know how it works out.. :) <3