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When My girlfriend broke up with me she said that she sees how much I love her but she said she knows eventually we will break up and she said that held her back from completely falling for me. I told her she thnks about the future too much and you have to go with what feels right during the present. Am I wrong? what can I do to convince her that one day we will slpit apart mutually? I miss her and I want our good times to continue for now.
I think it was her way of saying "I don't see us together in the future" and if you don't see yourself with someone for a long time it seems quite pointless to date them for the moment. I've defiantly been in her position and its a hard thing to explain, when it comes to relationships you HAVE to think about the future. If you don't see yourself with your partner in the future then why date them when you could be looking for the person you can see yourself with. Clearly you know you would split apart eventually, so why would you waste your time dating each other? That just makes no sense. You could still have good times together but just keep it on the friendship level and don't cross that line or else you may lose her completely. Don't bug her about this because it will just push her away, she obviously doesn't feel its right and you cant change that, respect her choices.
Deep down I knew my ex and I would never get married etc. but I was just so obsessed in love that would not let go. I tried to force the issue by separating for a bit, thinking that would make him feel stronger but it actually pushed him further and he is now with someone new, engaged (after less than 3mths of last being with me as a matter of fact!) I know I wouldn't have been happy forever with him but it still kills me and I think about it all the time. It needs to be both people seeing a future together and to make her see your way won't work - as hard as it is to get over.
And nobody knows what the future holds - maybe both our ex's will come back in time - although I don't think either of them are right for us. There must be people out there that do envision a future with us, don't you think? Good luck.
