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Mt boyfriend Aiden is terrified of ghost/spirits.He has hade bad experiences with them so i dont blame him for being scared.But tonight i was on the to him as he was in tears because he was sure there was a ghost in his room,it was horrible because i couldnt help him :'( .I want to get him something for christmas that might keep bad energies away or spirits completely.Please help me is you have any ideas.
The burden of proof lies with the person making the claim. Humans are ridiculously bad at interpreting reality. We use highly limited senses who's information is clouded by our prejudices and recorded in spotty memories. Often when police interview 5 witnesses to a crime they get 5 very different stories because people are so bad at seeing, interpreting, and remembering what happens. In fact dreams and memories are nothing like the continuous narrative we believe they are but rather a series of images, impressions, and feelings and when we remember or relate them we fill in details based on our other knowledge and experiences. When something is really important we use rigorous techniques like well controlled double blind tests, the scientific method, quantitative measurements, etc. Basically everyone, you, me, and everyone else is deluded and full of crap. Some things we are sure of just aren't so but we usually will never figure most of it out. Lots of people think they see ghosts, angels, demons, spirits, etc. The existence of these do not stand up to critical scientific scrutiny. It isn't a problem if someone believes in something they imagine or misinterpret; we all do this. When someone is being terrorized by their fantasies it becomes pathological psychosis,
the point is, it is ignorant to say that we are either 100% certain they do exist, or that we are 100% certain they do not exist. I used to be that scared, then I just moved forward and realized they won't hurt me. No medications, no therapy. And I am now currently a psychology major heading for my masters degree in a couple years, so I would say I have turned out to be a fairly well developed individual while still having ghostly encounters here and there. So no, I will not tell someone to seek help (which lets face it, will only result in some 10 minute evaluation and then a prescription for a heavy medication, that's just how the system works) when I am not sure they need it. However, if he is saying they are telling him to kill himself or others, then that is a problem. Until then, it is a difference in opinion and I will not condemn someones mental health just based on personal belief. I am not that ignorant.
As some people said, getting a protective talisman online, also burning sage in the room and around the house. However that usually just cleanses the room, he might still be visited if they really want to get a message across. The best help you can give him is to help him understand that most spirits usually do not want to harm him and that it is best if he learns not to fear them, because if it's just a message they want to get across the fear will make it all seem harmful. He needs to just calm down and if he wants them to leave, he will need to politely ask. But they might never leave, so he will just have to learn to not be afraid, and accept it. When that happens, trust me they are way less scary.
But in the meantime, it wont hurt to burn some sage in the house and say a few words.
After today, most of the ghosts and goblins should be done celebrating and vanish. LOL Seriously, most paranormal activity has an earthly explanation sometimes not apparent because of the belief system and workings of the mind. You know like a person lost in the desert suddenly sees mirages and convinced they are real. David Copperfield and Criss Angel make a great living at understanding how to trick the mind of their audience. But if your BF is not convinced of these possabilities he can speak to his local priest, or leaders of whatever culture group he believes in. If they are reputable they will first go through a ruling out process, and if that doesn't work they should refer you to other sources more specialized in that field.
There are people who are more sensitive to things like that. I have a friend who can see, hear, and determine if they might be harmful. Then I have my mother who can OCCASIONALLY see and even talk to them. I myself...well, sometimes I can feel their presence but not much more... Your boyfriend could be more sensitive to them. I have at least two to three in my house and even though they aren't harmful I do get uncomfortable. The thing is, I get scared like he does. Not to the point of crying but it can be hard to sleep at night if I feel them near. So I put Christmas lights up on the ceiling in my room and even learned to sleep with them on. It keeps certain things out of my room and I feel safer...
Now this is my specialty:) Ok somthing you can do right now, get sea salt (or any salt you might have, sea salt just works better) and spread it either around your yard along a fence or just in every corner and window and door way in the house. Try going online and looking up Wishing candels to give him, that way he can make his wish to have all spirits kept away. You can also look up special wiccan stores online and it will show you special proteciton candels,inccents, and can even give you tips to help keep peace around your home. It can also be recommened to hang a cross or rosary in every room(i dont see much with this) Hope I helped:) let me know if you need anymore info on it.
Spam is almost right. Reality is what I make it. If I am thinking dark thoughts, aint I just thinking bad things into existance? What I need to do is think good things into existance. It is easier if you have a relationship with God, but not necessary. Rgardless what spam thinks, God has a relationship with us, even when we dont with him. Jesus is awesome, only one in the scriptures, i believe, that had actual power over the evil spirits. He commanded them to leave, and they left. As a lover of Christ, I keep that in the back of my mind. Keep a bible in your room. a crucifix wouldnt hurt, also a wooden stake and some garlic.
There is one thing you could do to keep those freaky spirits at bay,
All you have to do is listen to what i say, A pinch of your power.... to prolong its gain,
then add some flem ,from a man ...condemed as insane.
Add the inner working part... of a Bats brain.
Include some Wiffs ,from an old smelly, blocked drain.
Find a fallen twig ....found on a narrow country lane.
Add in some suger...but only a single grain.
Dip in the mixture.... a long silver chain.
Find 1 hair....from a Horses main.
And no spirit will visit you again.....Yeah right.
Gaia3 , what filletofspam is saying is not disrespectful.. Think about it. This girls boyfriend is hearing/seeing/feeling things that aren't really there, and it has him so scared that he crys about it. That's hardly healthy, it sounds to me like he really does need help. It's not fair to be making it worse for him by tell him to cover his house with salt or to spend money on useless candles and the likes, it's only making him believe this nonsense even further and no help will come from these "cures" .. What he needs is to get serious help about this.
Gaia3 , what filletofspam is saying is not disrespectful.. Think about it. This girls boyfriend is hearing/seeing/feeling things that aren't really there, and it has him so scared that he crys about it. That's hardly healthy, it sounds to me like he really does need help. It's not fair to be making it worse for him by tell him to cover his house with salt or to spend money on useless candles and the likes, it's only making him believe this nonsense even further and no help will come from these "cures" .. What he needs is to get serious help about this.
Okay, all you people are leaving useless help.. Burning herbs, blocking doors with salt, and praying to "god" is not gonna help. If your boyfriend is serious, and is actually convinced there is GHOST in his room he needs some professional help. And by professional I don't mean the ghost busters.. He needs to get his head checked out, and you need to stop going on as if his ghost problem is real and start reassuring him that ghosts, demons, angels, god and all of that magic, that has the poor guy scared to death, does not really exist.
In my experience, a banishing or protection spell would be a good way forward. Depending on whether you share similiar religious points of view with me, you could use magick. A banishing spell rids a specific area of a spirit and would be the basic thing to do but on the safe side, a protection spell for you and your loved ones and even for your house. If you need any specific spells, you can message me, especially for any tools you'd need, candles etc. Good luck :) )O(
"People believe in different things"..."If you don't believe in these things don't post ignorant stuff." ...you just contradicted yourself- "Don't say god isn't real...I hope one day you see"? I thought people believed in different things? How about this- I won't say that your god isn't real and you don't force your religion on us, alright sweetie? You have your beliefs and we have ours, now shut up about it.
Go into his room with him and if you don't see them, then they are not there and therefore it's in his mind. Not being sarcastic here, but the best gift you could give him is some help. Either from you, or maybe a professional. Spirits can exist, but can do no harm or hurt anyone because they are just spirits. Folklore and the movies have shaped peoples minds to think the worst and it's ridiculous.
I havnt forced nothin on anyone. So how bout u shut up about it. I am not sittin here sayin that anyone needs to believe nor an i saying that believing in these things is crazy seein as they dont exist...when its obvious they believe. So yes maybe he does need professional help. Or maybe there is ghosts messin wit him. Who really knows?
How am i forcing my religion on anyone here connor? All i am sayin is she says god isnt real i say he is and to sit here and say anybody who believes in god or ghost or any kind of thing aling those lines is just gonna cause him more stress is rediculous. To someone who believes those comments are helpful
I saw somewhere online that you make a circle of salt somewhere it won't get messed up by wind or something you say a chat to banish spirits and as long as the circle is undisturbed the spirits will go away but when its disturbed they come back and its brutal my bf did it and it worked so yeah.
Just cause you dont believe doesnt make other people crazy for believing. Although i dont believe in ghost of dead people. I do believe in dmeons and angels. Im sure u think thats crazy too. your answer is rude and not helpfull. obviously not all people are closed minded as you
hey onemandog. U do no that in the bibke it says that there is no such thing as ghosts of dead people. There are spirits but they r either demons or angels. Demons take form of a dead person to fool and trick u. Just thought u would like to no cuz i no ur a christian.
Rebuke them, with the name of God, if your religious. Do you do anything to invite them in? I mean if there not doing anything harmful, I say your fine. I have had a exorcism done to my house before cause it was beyond mad. Ask a priest to come and bless the house.
Thats really ignorant..God is real. People believe in different things. if you dont believe in these things then dont post ignorant stuff. just stick to what u believe in. Dont say God isnt real. he is and I Know this for a fact. I hope one day you see
I hate when really intelligent people resort to disrespectful comments just because it isn't what they believe. How does this comment make you any different than the ignorant masses who say "my religion is right and you are wrong"?
There is something called reality. Reality is that which doesn't go away when you stop believing in it. I would say that your answer is not helpful and only reinforces her boyfriend's paranoia, superstition, or neurosis.
There is no such thing as ghosts. There are spirits but they are either demons or angels. If you are religious. Just pray. Ask God to send his angels. No demon/spirit can linger ehen Jesus Christ is mentioned
I believe a psychiatrist is the Only answer ...Next he will be seeing Santa or even telling tales about seeing the Ester bunny... if help is not sought now his mind may deteriorate further,i reckon.
What exactly is going on ...Is it voices he only hears or movement of objects, noises, shadows or is his fear due to experiences that are physcially more threatening to him ?
But it is always a good idea to weigh in all the posibuilities.. even if he does have to see a psychiatrist. What ever the truth is it is not normal. and needs to be analyzed
Thanks. I have read the entire New Testament, but not all of the Old Testament and don't remember. Where is it? Nice of you to share that with me.
There is a link above that i posted that will take you to the verses and explanation. Ur welcome :)
the best u can do is stay positive. dont be negative cuz negative energy atrracts more negativity.
Reality for some is believing, and if you belive then it is helpful. obviously she/he believes.
I guess the question more importantly would be why and what is attracting them to him?
Well if religion is your thing, maybe a rosary or a cross?
@filletofspam is right.. It also made me lol.
The phone number of a good psychiatrist?
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all depends on ur beliefs i guess
yes Yehshua and repenting
I agree fully gaia3.
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