Should I talk to her or leave it?

My mum doesn’t trust me and my boyfriend in my room. I kinda understand her point on not sleeping in the same room and all but I’m not stupid enough to do anything that I wouldnt do in front of her. But she wont ever give me a good reason why I can’t go watch a movie in my bedroom with him. I ask her and all she says is no. She’s always different when my boyfriend stays and kinda has a go a me most of the time and I have cried and went to my room with my dog or just block myself away from my boyfriend which isnt good. But I dont understand why she’s like this. Should I speak to her or leave it? Because I’m worried she will just shout at me. We’re quite close and joke about sex etc. But I dont know what to do. I’m 16 next year and I guess she will let me be with him etc. Should I leave it til next year or what? Im so confused and scared about it

Answer #1

Speak to her, it’s always the best thing to do before making a rash decison. Tell her how it upsets you that she dis trust you so much and that you feel by your age you feel it’s time to be treated more like an adult not a child.

Your Mum maybe had a bad past with a certain boy at you age and it’s making her apprehensive about giveing you too much lee way. She’s probably just being protectiv towrads her child and doesn’t realise she’s suffacting you. Tell her you need some space to breathe.

Answer #2

yea but I go to boarding school and he stays over at my house in the holidays and I have only been to his once but I might be staying this summer.. but his parents left us alone in his room with the door shut… and we never actually done anything. and I know. thats the reason why we cant sleep in the same room

Answer #3

Well, it’s just that in her mind, she probably knows watching a movie in your room sometimes isn’t the only thing that could happen there. :/

Answer #4

woah jeese.. I’m not stupid I know that.. and I do but why on earth would you want my whole life story…and them isnt a them.. its my mum and her boyfriend thats moved in and anyways im moving out next year if I can so it doesnt really matter and you dont know anything

Answer #5

Um.. why don’t you go to his house? when I’ve used to go to my exs house when we met her mum always gave me this look, so I decided just to have her over to mine instead. just talk to her.

Answer #6

There are a lot of parents who dont allow boyfriends in their daughters bedrooms. It is THEIR house, you are still a minor living under THEIR roof, so you need to respect them. When you are an adult, and are on your own, you can do whatever you want!

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