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Should I believe my fiance?

I read my fiancee messages which I know was wrong but he was talkin to another girl and said “I love you more than I’ve ever loved anyone” and if it wasnt for my kids id come away with you” his kids are with his ex and the girl he was sendin messages to is moving away,, I asked him about it and he said he meant he loved her as a friend and he was just in a bad place at the time that it didnt mean anything,he was also insulted that I thought he would cheat on me.We have been together for over two years and we live together, he has always been good to me but now I just dont know what to think,,do just friends say things like that to each other? am I overeacting? im just so confused

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Answer #1

I’ve had a similar situation happen to me. My boyfriend at the time was away for the summer visiting his mother. He was acting a little shady and I knew his password, so I looked at his email (yeah yeah, I know) but I found several emails back and forth to and from this girl we went to school with. The one email from him said how much he loved her. I called him on it and at first he said that they were just friends, saying how much he loved her as a friend. Then he told me that his cousin was messing around on the computer and wrote it under his screen name. Low and behold, I found out after we broke up that he was cheating on me with that girl. Now I’m not saying that is exactly what is happening to you, but I would be careful.

Answer #2

I wouldn’t believe him if I were you - you don’t say that type of thing to a friend, think about it. Sometimes I say “luv ya” to my friends but thats a lot different then “I love you more than I’ve ever loved anyone” like c’mon. Of course hes going to play the insulted role, to try and put you on the guilt trip and forget about the situation. Maybe he has always been good to you in front of your face, but what about behind your back? Clearly something is going on. You need to leave him now unless you enjoy being fooled.

Answer #3

I think you are being VERY naive. “I love you more than I’ve loved anyone”…nice coverup telling you he said that to a friend…you really are confused. Hes obviously cheating on you, but you just dont want to see it. I would really think twice about marrying him.

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