Should I be upset at six months pregnant?

I have a son from an accidental pregancy and now am a single mom. His father and I had only been together for a few months when I got pregnant. He is a nice guy in general and we get along great now, but a few months after I got pregnant he began to talk about getting married. I didn’t want to, not because I didn’t love him, but because the relationship hadn’t been long enough for me to make that decision. About a year later I found out he wasn’t a very honest person and we broke up, got back together, he kept lying, and I spent another year of hell with him being scared of being alone, but not being happy with him. Eventually I just had to leave him. Marrying him would have been a really big mistake. It was some of the most difficult years of my life, so I really understand that you feel you just want to be setteled and secure.

The most important thing to remember is that with or without him you will be ok, and marriage is a very big decision that needs a lot of thought.

My son is not a mistake but some of my choices were. When everyone was asking me (and sometimes pushing me) to get married, I just said, “I already made the mistake of sleeping with him too soon, I’m not going to make another mistake by marrying him too soon.”

Don’t worry about if he wants to marry you, think about and be positive you want to marry him. I would try to relax and not worry about it until a few months after you have your baby. Your perspective will be clearer then, and you need to focus on keeping your stress down right now. I really understand how difficult that situation is and I really hope your relationship works out (assuming he’s a good guy). Good luck!