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self esteem problems

Im having problems with my self esteem because of weight issues and I was wondering if any one could give me some advice on how I could get over it. Im skinny and I have been this way all my life. When I was like 9 or 10 I didn’t know any better and I use to starve myself because every one I knew was doing it, then after a while I grew out of it. Now I eat a lot and I still dont gain weight, lately my weight has droping and I cant fit a size 5 any more. Alone with me losing weight my self esteem has been droping and also I feel that my boyfriend doesn’t like my body and that he would like it better if I was bigger. My boyfriend opinion probably has a big role in the way I feel but even if I didnt think he felt that way I would still be down…if anyone has any advice to help me I would really appreciate it.

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Just to clarify, you think you’re too skinny, right? Well, here’s what I think- I think a size five is a lot better than what I am, which is a 00-1, depending on the store. A five sounds like a pretty healthy size, depending on your height. If your worried about your boyfriend thinking badly about you, you should talk to him about it. Just remember though that even though his opinion is very important to you, you can’t let that dictate you- don’t be uncomfortable with your body only because he doesn’t like it. If he truly cared about you, your body wouldn’t even be that big of an issue. That being said, I would recommend going to your doctor and seeing what they think. I know exactly how you feel- I eat all the time and I’ve gained 12 pounds in the past 4 years… As far as self-esteem goes, make a list of all of the things you do like about yourself. Whether it be your hair, your eyes, your feet, your personality, whatever. And whenever you look in the mirror, force yourself to think about the things on that list, not the bad things. If you’re truly unhappy with your body, talk to your doctor and see if there’s anything they can do to help you, like setting you up with a dietitian. Good luck!

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