I have low self-confidence and self-esteem. Is there a way I could, like, increase it or something?
The key to every thought we have towards ourselves and others comes from our interpretation of the world around us--long ago or just a minute ago. Self discipline and self control "mastered" brings self esteem and self confidence.
It matters not your age. It matters not your gender. Self esteem and confidence comes from seeing success at something with your own eyes. Don't be foolish and choose something too tough for you to accomplish "at this time," (Leave really tough things for the future--no matter how much you want to do it.) Also do not choose something too easy--something you could do in your sleep without even trying. That will never give you confidence.
Instead, choose a goal that will make you sacrifice something (like giving up TV for a while--make it something you really want.), If it is another person who is influencing your opinion of yourself, choose another associate who will be positive around you -- unless you are out of control with some substance like food, alcohol, sex, or drugs., if this is the case--get control of yourself in this is a must or you will never have self esteem.
Remember Bing Crosby's song, learn it, and sing it often: "You have to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch onto the affirmative, and don't mess with Mr. Inbetween..."
Find a time alone, and repeat at least 10-times a day: (It matters not your religious background -- Christian, Islamic, Hindu, Buddist, or whatever.) "I am a real child of God or Allah. He is my real Father, and as such, 10,000-years from now, I will see that my relationship with Him is better than being a litral prince, princess, king, or queen of any nation on earth today."
When you first awake, and before you open your eyes, visualize Him giving you a big hug and a kiss on each cheek. Do the same while your eyes are closed just as you are dropping off to sleep at night. 1st & last thing each day visualize his loving parenting.
Never fool yourself. Never! You will always be with you. You may lie to others, but you will never successfully lie to yourself. You will see everything you do, say, or even think. "There is no greater fool, then the fool that fools himself!" Being a fool will never raise your self esteem or self confidence. Follow these simple rules, and good luck.
As a result of being picked on throughout my school years for various things... you can very well imagine that my self-esteem and self-confidence had basically hit rock bottom.
Before I graduated high school, I had decided that I was going to join the Army Delayed Entry Program. Why? Well, I figured that since my brother and sister had done so a year earlier, then I could do it too. I joined the service and became a main frame computer operator.
In the military you have no choice, you must deal with people. There is no room for low self esteem or low self confidence.
So I had decided that if I could break the ice by playing on people's words, then situations would be easier for me to deal with. If you listen to people talk, they truly do say some funny stuff and I was usually able to come up with something. However, you have to watch "innuendo", because sometimes people might take your comments the wrong way and then you have to explain that you are not interested. :)
After a while, you will find that you are able to stand on your own two feet and look at the world with eyes wide open and a mindset full of determination that you can accomplish whatever your heart desires.
i know how you could amanda! Stop calling yourself ugly all the time!!! And i think it would help if you got out of that house for a little while!!! come over my house so we can play sims and make them yoohoo!!! lol see ya