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Rude friend

My friend is always rude to me about sex. She thinks she is the only one who is allowed to have sex so she constantly tells myself and anyone else who will listen how “bad Hannah is at sex” and thinks it is a funny joke telling everybody about my private sex life. I don’t care that she is saying I am bad at sex, I know I’m not, that’s not what bothers me. It’s just that she is so rude and inconsiderate and doesn’t like it when I tell people about her sex life. I told her today when she was saying to me that a was “a bad root” that she was being very immature but she doesn’t get the message. How can I properly tell her to stop without starting an argument or making her feel targeted.

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Things can only become arguments if you allow them to. I would recommend that you say what needs to be said. Explain to her that if she wishes to keep talking about your sex-life (and furthermore, make fun of you), then you will have no hesitation in doing the same thing. She has no right to comment on your private life and she needs to be warned. It is possible that she may yell, but if you stay calm simply say (there is no need to shout) what you need to say, then I’m sure she will get the message.

Typically I do not recommend threatening somebody, but in this context it is more of a warning. Tell her that you do not appreciate or approve of her talking about your sex-life and that if she continues, she will get a taste of her own medicine. Explain (if you haven’t already) how this makes you feel and how it may impact on you in the future and tell her that no good friend of yours would behave so badly or show such immaturity and disregard for you. Basically, tell it like it is and hopefully she will get the message. Hope that helps :)!

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