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So this guy that has been staying with us for over six months is my boyfriends best friend, and he has never helped out with rent and he never picks up after himself, he is an all around bad house guest. I gave him a two week notice about 4weeks ago, he left only to return the following week. I never said anything because I know my nagging about him being at my house was annoying to my boyfriend. now this guy tells me he is not going to leave. and my boyfriend wont do anything about it. His friend also treats me like crap and he acts as if he owns this place. My boyfriend tries to compromise by asking his friend to help out with rent, but I dont care about that, I do not want his guy here, he is ruining our relationship. I am to the point were I do not feel as if this is my home, I have no control over who lives here. This apartment is in both mine and my boyfriends name and I want his guy out of my house. His friend is not on the lease and is not supposed to stay here, we could get kicked out because of it. I am seriously thinking of leaving and living somewhere else, my boyfriend has obviously chosen his best friend over me. but I have nowhere to go and no money, and I don't want to leave my boyfriend, what should I do? how do I take control of my life and my home?
ok wow! This is a pretty crazy situation! I think that you should go to the police or something honestly! If this guy is ruining your relationship, wont get out of your house , and your boyfriend isn't doing anything about it then you should take matters into your own hands and get this guy outta there anyway you can! in the end your boyfriend should be able to see why you did this and you guys will be so much happier without that strain on your lives. >>> On the other hand, if your boyfriend isn't doing anything about this then you should look into this. He obviously doesn't care about the situation messing with your relationship as much as you care and that's a sign. Maybe you should just get out and go stay with a friend or some family for a little while. If that guy isn't paying rent now then he's probably not going to pay after you leave and that just means your boyfriend will have to pay it all! He will then realize what a douche bag his friend is and that you were only trying to make things better for the both of you.
ok well 1st you needa make sure your man understands that just because dats his homie he still haz da responibility of pickin upo after himself and all that other shiet because dats disrespect 2 your house and esentually you as da owner. talk 2 da friend wit your man der. and let him know that ol dude needs 2 pay rent or get out. and after knowin that you mite get kickd out 4 him bein der den fu*k that pimpin needa go and get his own place. its coo if he stay 4 alil but if aint treatn you rite in yo own hose. so tell ya man he gota choice. its you or his homie.
If he treats you like crap and your boyfriend does 'nothing', that's a HUGE Red Flag - do not ignore !! - >> my boyfriend has obviously chosen his best friend over me << - that should be crystal clear - I'd get out...it's a no-win for you, sorry.
