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this happened when I had just turned 7 and happened abroad when I went to visti family. the rapist is a family member my mums brother. im am now 15 and havnt been able to tell anyone especially my mum. my mum isnt one of then people you can 'talk' to becos I know she will tell someone else and ill end up gettin pity and if I do tell her then the last connection she has with her father willl be lost all because of me and also I think I have left it too late to tell her maybe she wont believe me now. I've been back abroad a few times after the rape and have faced him too im not afraid of him anymore but I havnt confronted him directly. hes all free with me talks to me as if nothin ever happeened between us or maybe hes forgottten or somethin. he was only 14 at the time I doubt he can remeber and if he does then hes doin a darn good job of hidin it. I've kept this insyd me for ages not havin the courage to tell anyone becos I think partially it was own fault I dont want to report him or anythin because he doesnt even live in this country and at the end of the day family is family and forgiv and foget which I cant do neither of forgive or forget. I just need to know if I've lft it too late to tell anyone. I dont want to see anyone eg councillors because I find it hard to talk to people face to face or on the phone and also I may be going back abroad in a few months too I just want to know how I should face him. how should I act around him you get me? please help me here
hey sweetie like everyone else is telling you its not to late. it took me 13 years to tell my step mom about what happen to me and I was afraid she wouldnt believe me but she did. so heres a poem that goes out to you and any other girl or boy that has ever been raped: what do I do? should I tell or keep it to myselk? will anyone listen? who will belive me? how will my parents react? what will my friend say? will laugh in my face? or think im a lier? im afraid. I didnt want it. I told him/her no. but he/she did it anyway. we were drunk and no one could hear my screams... everyone told me not to go with him/her.. why didnt I listen? now im bruised... hurt...scared... and... ALONE. do I tell? or keep it to my self?if I tell, I will be questioned, if I tell,their will be drama if I tell their will be rumors if I tell my parents will be sad if I tell they wont trust me if I tell their will bw cops if I tell I have to face him/her again if I tell will people treat me diffrently? But.. if I don't tell my parents will be clueless they would still trust me alone there wont be cops I'll have to see his/her nasty face every where I go. and live with the fact he/she can and will do it again... if not you..again, another innocent girl/boy and no matter what it will always be your fault.you'll have to live through life knowing you could of stoped this man/women from hurting another girl/boy. well I think you hsve your answer now, speak now befor he/she hurts you or someone else again. this time it could b eyour friend... speak. I hope this helps. good luck!!!
heya hunni! I too was raped when I was very young (5 years old!) and also am now 15. the police found out although I'd never told anyone but it had turned out that the person who raped me (my ex-best friends dad) had also been doing the same to my ex-best friends cousin who had told her mum who had gone to police. so I have never really talked to my mum about it or anyone else for that fact and I also find it really hard to tell people about it even on msn and stuff it still makes me cry fior hours (even writing this) and up until about 6months ago I only got about 2 hours sleep most nights because I would have these graphical images of it in my head everytime I closed my eyes. I felt I was a retard and was stupid because I'd gotten raped and still sometimes do but you've just gotta remember that it's not your fault! I really urge you to talk to your mum about it because you can't carry on meeting the guy who raped you. everytime I go past the prison the dad was put in or my ex-best friends house I get the images come back and can't breathe until they go away and I think I would probably faint if I met the guy so I can understand how hard it is for you! so seriously tell your mum and im sure she will believe you as it's not really something most mums would take a chance on as it is a very serious issue! if you tell her you can avoid meeting him which I think is a very good idea if you are anything like me! good luck hunni and if you ever need someone to talk to whos been through the same thing im always here ok! x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x
Im very sorry you had to go through something like that,and I know in your mind your not sure how your mother is going to take it .But sweetheart I will be real and honest with you and I know your still hurting over what this person has done but you have to get this weight off your shoulders the longer you keep it in the worse your going to feel and you cant put it on the back burner and try to forget about it , because that person that hurt you could hurt another child, you should find a quit place and sit your mother down and tell her exactly what happend , dont be afraid youve got over the hard part by telling us the one thing that is hurting you so deeply and that took a lot of courage, I hope and pray that I helped you a little. Sweetheart if you feel you cant talk to your mother talk to your teachers or school counsler and keep talking until you are heard. None of what happend to you is your fault dont forget that. your a little angel that just grew some big wings, because youve decided to talk to someone,God bless you and Ill keep you in my prayers.
Well honey, its is very hard to face that kind of problem. You have to listen to your heart. Like you said family is family. You are a part of your mother she will love you forever. You said you have not been able to tell anyone. Well today you took the first step of being a survior. You told us. I am proud of you. It will hurt when you go back in your thoughts to think of it. But keep fighting it to make you stronger. It is not too late. I never told my parents they found out somehow, 3 years after I was molested. There is a new movie out called Georgia's Rule. It invovles this kinda sutiation with 3 generations. if you feel you can not talk to family or friends, it is important to resolve how you feel comfortable. I became stronger, by getting invovled with the community. I want to help prevent this from happening to anyone else. lets talk. Reply anytime I will respond as soon as I can. If you need anything. Remember it is not your fault you were only a child. Remeber you are beautiful, and can have the world in whatever way you want
i jus cnt tell my mum. whenever something happens in my life that involves reputation or guys then i always get the blame. im from a family that dont allowed relationships outside of marriage and if im seeing havin any kind of indecent relationship with guys i can end up getting kicked out of my own home. im not tryin to offend my mum but thats how it is in my family. kind of strict. i dont know how my mum will react to what happened and how she will accept it was her own flesh and blood who did it. it'll break her heart and i dont wanna see my mum get hurt what so ever and as i said before i dont think he even remembers what he did or is really really hiding it. i mean he had just turned 14 at the time. im not even going to think asbout forgiving him. there is no way that is going to happen. i just dont know how to face him and tll him that i know what he did and im not gonna let it go and say something like he has to pay because he really has to pay for what he did
shawty96 - Honey, you need to tell your parents. You can't be around that man and you need to tell someone that. Please. Stay AWAY FROM HIM. If he starts to touch you excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or something and then grab a phone and call the POLICE. This is a very serious situation and you could get really hurt.
anoymus1 - You also need to tell someone. Even if it isn't your mother. I understand that is hard. I finally told my parents when I was molested but it was awkward. I was also 9 and I didn't really understand my emotions. YOu do need to tell someone so you can sort out emotions even if you don't think it is that serious. I truly doubt he has forgotton what he did so I think you should make sure that he doesn't do it again. Nobody wants that and trust me this pain will feel 10 times worse if another girl got taken advantage of before you said anything. Please tell someone!
It's never too late to tell. Just, telling your mother first might be overwhelming. If you know anyone that is older. Maybe a youth pastor an older friend. any friend. someone you can trust. someone who will keep their mouth shut until youare ready to tell. like, in a way workk yourself up. this is a start. saying it over the computer. at least you get to talk a little about it. try and find someone you trust and can talk to. even if it's awkward. you can just sit in a room and write back and forth on paper.. you just need to get it out or it will just keep eating at you sweetie. I would be upfront with him. just be like, do you remember what happened when you were 14? and if he says no then he is obviously not going to own up to it. But just tell him that you forgive him maybe. Maybe he will do the right thing then.
lots of love & luck.
Christie.
I went through the same thing, except it wasn't a family member, and I didnt tell my mom for a year and a half.. and I wouldn't have told her, but my best friend did because she was worried about me. You have to tell someone because you need the proper counselling to get all your emotions out, and to learn how to deal with the "pitty" (Even though its not really pitty, people will just want to help you) And, whether he remembers or not (Which he probably does), it doesnt matter. What he did was wrong and you deserve to get through it. If you do not get the proper councelling now, it can affect you later on in life, with relationships, work, when you decide to have kids. Please get some help and tell your mom. If you do not feel comfortable telling your mom, then tell someone you do feel comfortable with. Good luck
It is not your fault. Talk to your mom. It is happening everyday. Talk to someone. This needs to stop. You should not have to carry this heavy burden. You did not chose to have an indecent relationship. He broke the trust and took that from you. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are a victim, you need some pity as a child. the last 7 years have not been a natural childhood for you, because of this. You deserve to have all your dreams come true. You only get one chance in this world, it is your world. No one can decide how you live. Just stay strong. When the time is right you will make your choice. Until then, you can talk to us about anything
im soo sorry that had ever haappened to you and I've heard that is very heard to get over you should sit your mom down one day and just tell her the truth and be honset about everything that had happened that is one of the only ways to get over it is to talk about it if you cant tell your mom try counsoling they keep everything private and will not tell ANY one that sooo that way no one finds out its just soo that it will help you over come the fact that that had happened and the maybe a counsoler will help you out with telling your momk im sorry im really not much help but I wish I was and I wsh you then best of luck
Regardless of the situation...If you have been raped and you still feel like you should tell someone...then tell someone...even if it isnt your mother...sometimes forgiving is hard...but remember its for your benefit...you will never forget...but talking to someone will ease the pain... Ive been raped...and i took my time to tell ppl...i was 7 and it was a family friend...i told my mother when i was 18...but i had come to terms with it before that...just make sure you are comfortable in telling her...if not...wait untill you sort yourself out...thats the most important thing.
"GET SOME OF your FRIENDS AND GO KICK HIS RAPIST A** OR REPORT IT BECAUSE HE MIGHT DO THAT TO SOME OTHER LITTLE GIRL"
judging by your name you are a bit too impulsive... yay! mean streaks back!
anyway, im very sorry this happened to you (seriously) its going to be massively tough im sure but the only solution is to tell your mom because she will tough it out WITH you (sounds good,right?)
and I highly doubt shell be telling everyone about it (only the ones she has to)
tell her. if you cant, get someone like a very close friend that you can trust to. if he has done it once... he can do it again... he might have already done it again to some innocent little girl... who knows. tell.
your just lucky he doesnt live nearby.
most of all... confront him. tell it to him straight. "you raped me" make sure your with someone when/if you do that. like... your mom, after you tell her.
good luck.
xxx
its hard but its never too late sweetie. im so sorry to hear that its not fair it happend to you. If i was you i would look at my mom and say ' mom ive been scared to tell you, but i cant keep it in any longer, and tell her" she wont be mad if she thinks its a joke tell her your serious and you thought hat your own mother would understand you she will believe you shel help you shel comfort you It is the best thing to do. <3
you dont have to tell your mom just TELL SOMEONE you will feal beter and be able to get help the same thing happened to my mom IT WAS HER STEP DAD but think if he did it to you he will probably do it to someone else and its not ok to just sit back and let him get away with it even if its easier to.
and you have to remember not to be embarrassed about it ITS NOT UR FAULT! IT COULD HAPPEN TO ANYONE
Hya drlin< omg babe!! thats bad!! the wanka shunt get away wid it, first of all ya wanna tell ya mom straight away!! and he will go to prison, hes sick! if it woz me i wuda killed him chick!! hes a sick man and he dunt deserve 2 be ere but if he can do it once he can do it again, so youu need to sort it!! tell ya mom babe, dont let him get away wid it!!! love ya babeeyy. x x x x x x x x x
well I was raped when I was four or five and that was by one of my moms boyfriends. im 15 now and it took me almost 13 years to tell my step mom about what happend to me. you need to tell somebody. anyone aslong as it is some one you trust. im getting a lot of hel now and im doing better. you wont be "fixed" but its a start and you'll feel a lil better. lots of luck to you!!
jess xo
Hey, You should tell your mom. If you tell your mom, she could help you through this tough time. Report that guy, because if you dont, he could do it to another innocent little girl. And he might even go farther with her and kill her. you were one of the lucky ones. You got to live. Now you should do your part, and turn him in. you might save a life...
I know it may be hard to talk to your mother about this, but this is something that she NEEDS to know. trust me, its going to take a lot of courage to tell her. but youve gotta. and just remember.. its never too late.
ill keep you in my heart in prayers. everything will fall into place, I promise<3 and also, talk to God about it...
I was raped at the age 5 and my dad raped me I was so afraid he told me I was dressed wrong so he fixed it and I told my mom and my mom left my dad and now I have to be careful because he wants me to lie and say that I lied you can talk to a therapist like me or a guidence counclier it helps hope this help ~Alexi~
YEH YOU NEED TO F|_|CKING TELL SOMEONE YOU BEEN HURT AND YOU HAVNT TOLD, HOWDYOU KNOW HE WONT DO IT AGAIN YOUR MUM WILL BELIEVE YOU, IF NOT SHES NOT A GOOD ENOUGH MUM. THEIR THERE TO GOVE THE BENIFET OF THE DUBT EVEN OVER HER BROTHER IF ALL ELSE FAILS, THE POLICE WILL BELIEVE YOU AND TAKE SERIES ACTION
what happend to you happend to me I was also 7 and my cusin was 18 or 17 I am now 11 and he is 23 and he wants me still to do the sex to him?? what should I do I cant face him when he gets near me he wants to touch my legs and also I havent told any one about this?? please help me???
you probably should tell yes family is family but family shoundnt do that, and its never to late to tell someone because what he did was very wrong and just cause he was fourtteen doesnt mean anything it was wrong in the first place does he still do this to you?
Thats pretty gud advide from wonderpetsrule, you need 2 tel sme1, this person deserves 2 die, you r a human being and he thought just because you r young you wouldnt tel! wel you should prove him wrong and get his but in jail!
well i think u should tell your mom or someone that u know that can help u even if it is hard it might be easire to face the raptics but sorry thtas the best advice i could give
this is smthn that is hard to tell people but you just need to come out w it who knows if hes done or will do stuff to others
GET SOME OF your FRIENDS AND GO KICK HIS RAPIST A** OR REPORT IT BECAUSE HE MIGHT DO THAT TO SOME OTHER LITTLE GIRL
you need to tell someone. I kmow how nhard it will be because I was raped by my uncle so you have to tell someone
Are yuh sure yur 15...it says yuh were born in 1996
