Queen Bee?

I just started high school, and no one really knows one another. But there’s this girl, Lina, who isn’t mean, exactly, but she’s the perfect match for the roll of popular girl; she’s short, she as long shiny dark hair, she laughs a lot, but she only talks to people in the group shes already starting to form. Shes not mean to other people, but she avoids them. I hate it when one person just automaticaly gains control. I want to, well, not tear her down, but make it clear that shes not better than everyone else, which everyone seems to believe. How can I be the bold girl who speaks up and is loved by EVERYONE for it? I dont like her control, but I still want to be friends with her. the world isnt black and white, I dont see her as an enemy, only a possible ally. any ideas?

Answer #1

is this a keep your friends close and your enemies closer sort of thing? I really dont understand what the point of this is in the grand scheme of things…Can you explain a little further please?

Answer #2

look, there’s always going to be that girl- and your lucky, because most are mean. I know, because people say my group is the popular group. I think people get the wrong perception. none of us, are stuck up, and think were better than anyone else. as for some, there just as self conscious as anyone, they dont want to go out of there group for fear of rejection. I dont think you should try to tell her anything- I mean, she hasnt done anthing to you, what’s the point? just to let her know? it really does sound like your jealous or something. if she say’s something, yeah by all means, tell her.. but just let it be- there’s no use.

Answer #3

sorry this is a bit late, but I think you should just think about this situation in a more positive way. If you dont want a barrier and you dont like that people are afraid of her and you think she is a snob. well, the real question is what do you want? you can tackle a problem with “I dont want this and I dont like that” but thats what you will end up getting! Instead, focus on good things that will in the end make a better environment for everyone. Because in the end, you want people to be happy and be free to do as they please. So in order to do that, you’d have to be friendly to everyone. Make friends with people who seem to be scared or in someway negatively impacted by this queen bee. Because then, instead of focusing on the negative of this girl, you are directing yourself to the positive and what you truly desire. “be the change you wish to see in the world” and remember you cannot change a person, only the situation you are in and your own actions!

Hope I helped!!! let me know if you need anymore advice!

Answer #4

No, I don’t think of her as an enemy, but I think that people are sort of making a barrier that’s like, “us” and “them”. I don’t like it. I just sort of want to break it down. I’m not jealous at all. I couldn’t care less who’s “that girl”. I just don’t like how people are almost afraid of her. I want people to know that she’s just as human as everyone. It annoys me that they think someone’s better just because. That’s all.

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