What Do I Do If I Am Pregnant, The "to-be" Father Wants Me To Have An Abortion?

what a man… i wanna be just like him when im all grown up. you stick to your guns amie and give birth to your child and if he doesnt want to be part of his childs life then show him the door.. in fact show him the door anyway cus he sounds like a right piece of work..

yes i also dont agree with killing unborn children

Well, he’s not really my boyfriend. He is my ex. =/ I’ve always wanted a kid. But I don’t want to lose my ex, even as a friend, cos of a baby

He is my ex =/ So I’m not sure what to do.

Well, i see, Now, What do you want to do, It’s all down to you, But you have to think of your whole life first, The future, What future could you provide for your child? Would you put it up? You have to think of everything before making a decision, it could be the best thing in your life or the worst thing to ever happen.

I know for a fact that finacially I can’t support a child while I’m in college and with a part time job (£67.50 a week). I am getting another job in september (£90 a week) But that is not enough for a baby.

And if your working all the time who’s going to look after the child?

You can have it and put it up for adoption, Or you can either have an abortion, It’s up to you. Just be sure you don’t regret your decision in the future.

I spoke with my mom like a month ago, jokingly, about kids. And she said she’d look after it while I was at college and stuff. But I’m not sure if she was joking or not. I was at the time. In England we get child benefits, but I don’t know how much

You do what you wanna do! Everyone tried too make me get an abortion ( everyone except my boyfriend ) i don’t belive in abortions if you don’t want the baby put he\she up for adoption when he\shes born it would be hard but i think its better than abortion! && you just do what you want .. if you want the baby then keep he\she if you don’t then there’s abortion && adoption hope i helped((:

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I don’t believe in abortions. But I don’t wanna force him to be a dad either. I am very confused

If he don’t want too be in the baby’s life you can’t make him , but you could raise the baby by yourself it would be hard! && alot of responsabilty ( can’t spell good lol ) But its up too you! im shure you’ll make the rite descion((:

thanks. it’s all a big IF though. I’m gonna wait a week then test. I could be worrying about nothing

Your welcome && yeah i wouldn’t worry untill i knew for shure((: if you got any other questions ill try too answer them lol((:

i have one posted. no one answered, it was, how long should i wait before doing a pregnancy test?

I waited 5 weeks then took one && thats also how long my sister waited soo 5 or 6 weeks((: Thats just us i was told that someone took one at 3 weeks! but 5 would be better i think((:

thats a long time =/

If you want too be for shure you need too wait a while you don’t wanna take it too soon && it say your not but you actually are!((: I know its a long time but i should go by fast did for me((:

Do what YOU want to do. If you abort your child, you WILL regret it later. This is a very, very hard decision, and will be a hard road. It will make your life harder but it will bring you so much joy. If you are having doubts (which you obviously are) DO NOT rush into anything. I can tell you don’t want to kill the baby, so keep it, and get child support money from the father (he has to pay). This WILL be so hard, but so worth it. Congratulations by the way, even under the wrong circumstances, you are having a baby. :)

If he didn’t want to be a dad, he should have been more careful. That’s too bad. You didn’t jump on top of yourself, so you shouldn’t have to raise the baby on your own. He needs to step up and take responsibility. If you don’t believe in abortions, don’t get one. But you shouldn’t worry too much until you take a test.

I havent taken a test yet. I am seeing a doctor next tuesday though.

It’s not just him. My parents would totally freak out too. I want to keep it. I just wonder if I can. I live with my parents and 6 siblings. And I am financially unstable

You’d get about 20 pounds a week. Which in all fairness isn’t much, In Ireland I get Jobseekers Allowance for sitting on my ass and that’s 100 Euro I get :P

I cant get JSA if i have a job though =/

you missed what i was saying. “You’d get about 20 pounds a week.”

yeah. =/ i thought that was child benefits not JSA

You dont even know if your pregnant or not yet, your worrying over all of these details and none of it may even matter. Take a test.

i know. i was worried yesterday. but my ex was worried and started saying stuff and now i am worried. i’ll take a test on tuesday

50,000 questions and you dont even know if you’re pregnant. How about you wait till you find out if you’re pregnant (you’re looking at less than a 5% chance from a one off incident), then start freaking out? Oh and it’s your body. It doesnt really matter what he wants.

I would just like to make sure you actually read what I have to say. You do what you think is right not anyone else. Think about you, and that baby first. He doesn’t have to be the father, you don’t even have to put him on the birth certific. You’re in control. Whatever you choose is going to be hard but, in the end I know you’ll make the right one.

wow you dont even know if your pregnant wow-_- but i suppose its ur body do what you feel is right

All that’s left to say is Follow your heart.

Listen.Nobody can tell you what to do.Its your baby.He will understand most likely why your keeping it.And he will have to accept it if he wants to be with youu.

hey my doctor says to wait 3 weeks. you can always try again if it come out negative to be safe.

No one can make this descision for you. It’s your decesion along with the babys father. If he wants you to have an abortion thats his decesion you should respect his decesion although if you’re uncomfortable then talk it out and try to do whats best for the baby and not yourselves.

dont listen to the a hole that is murder and then dump the son of a b** he is no man just a boy wanting to play a man then go get yourself a real man who will take of his business.