Pregnant and alone again

Hello. I’m 18 with a 2 year old that I’m very proud of.My daughters father cheated on me when I was pregnant and it tore me to pieces… But now I am 6 1/2 months pregnant with my little man and I’m alone again. My boyfriend left me 3 weeks after I got pregnant. Thankfully I got pregnant the month that me and my ex broke up a lot and I had sex with my daughters father. ( I’m still crazy about him andhe was my first at everyhing Ect.) so I pray that it’s my daughters dads baby. Anyways… I’m alone and I want to get married an have my family and a dad for my kids. I support myself and everything in that area is great I just don’t want to raise a baby boy by myself and I want a family and I want those butterflies in my stomach again from a guy that loves me and is my best friend. Well both guys know it might be there’s. But the guy I’m in love with is leaving in like 2 weeks for the army. And me and him try so hard to get back together. But he doesn’t treat me like he used to or how I think a family should be treated. Me and his daughter aren’t his top priority and I see that I deserve more I’m just tired of raising Babis alone and I still love him to death. And it almost seems like I’m never gna meet anyone that I will love like I do and did him… I’m so confused. Cause him leaving could help me get over him. But what if it doesn’t and what if this baby is his. I know I’m kinda rambling and I don’t really know what I’m asking advice about I just need someone to talk to. Cause I once was this beautiful girl that could get whoever she wanted and was an all star in highschool with sports. But I got pregnant with a guy that let me think I was his everything and he left me. And my whole teenage years I have raised my daughter. And I will be proud to say I’ve done an awesome job and actually took care of her. Just please I’m hurting I’m confused and I’m scared and I’m lonely… If anyone has any advice or positive thinking or will pray or anything please do so. Thank you so much. :)

Answer #1

you didn’t do any wrong. Not really.

Answer #2

I see…you want to be complete…But,if they both blew you off chances are when you guys are together again,he will do it again.You still are hurt and neglected from the loss…But,you still feel passion from the past romance…

Answer #3

Yes I haven’t found anything like he has given me… Now I’m gna have this beautiful family and no one to share it with.. I miss a lot of things I know I don’t want my x boyfriend and I want this baby to b with the same guy as my daughter. It’s like I want him so bad but I know I shouldn’t cause I deserve more. But I can’t get over him. And carrying his baby makes it worse.. But he’s gna be gone for like the next 4 years

Answer #4

go find some one you deserve because it seems like both men are 2 right dicks ! tip dont go find some ‘nice’ bloke in the pub/bar!

Answer #5

jesus christ don’t you get it? he doesn’t like you. he doesn’t wan to be a part of your family. he just wanted a quick hanky panky and you gave it to him. great job getting knocked up again. you need to stop whining and focus on your children. it’s not all about you anymore. stop b1tchin’ about how you need him. you don’t. you said you’re doing fine on your own so continue doing that. stop letting these men in your life just so they can use you time and time again. find someone who actually wants to be with you AND your kids.

Answer #6

I never said I needed him. I do focus on my kids.. And me and him were togther for 3 years and haven’t been together in a year so figure out your facts. It wasn’t just a hanky panky… you don’t have to be rude. Buy maybe your just like that. I know I need to find someone that wants my kids too. But I don’t need people like u telling my good job on getting knocked up. I love my kids and I’ve made mistakes but I’ve also been a big girl and took care of them.

Answer #7

I would just move on I have an ex with a kid an she keeps doing the sam thing you are and she keeps getting hurt the reason we broke up was because she cheated on me with her child melister ex on me. there are better people out there

Answer #8

It’s good that you have taken care of your mistakes but that’s not all that you should be doing, you should be LEARNING from your mistakes. You should of learned from the first time you got pregnant and avoided getting pregnant a 2nd time with another guy who clearly doesn’t deserve to be a father and at such a YOUNG age.

As for your Ex, it should be clear by now that he doesn’t deserve to be with you and your kids, even if he is the biological father. If he truly cares about you and his kid, he would of never left in the first place. If you really love your kids as you claim you do, you should put them first and your feelings second, and obviously this guy was a horrible father in the past and will always be a horrible father. All he is doing now is feeling lonely and wants to get back in your pants, but once another girl comes around his life, he will be gone again just like every other time.

Answer #9

Thank you very much for the positive advice above.. I needed it. your right since I do love my kids more then nything I should worry about them. I need to stop making excuses for her dad and I do deserve more. Thank u.

Answer #10

Tinatodder or what ever, fck you, honestly, she is pregnant and she’s doing her best so why don’t you stop btching. people like you piss me off, stop being such a dick and thinking your better then everyone. Perfect people aren’t real, real people aren’t perfect.

Answer #11

Thank you very much. If I wanted to hear and take advice like that then I would listen everyone in my damn town that have go idea what is goingon. And people on fun advice still don’t know what’s going on. I asked for advice on here so I can talk to other people who might have wise advice. I know I’ve done wrong and I have learned a lot of things… I have two kids that I love and spend every moment with… And they get everything they want and need. So before anyone judges me make sure your ownself is clean before you start pointed fingers at me… PLEASE!

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