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Pregnant and financially unstable?

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I just found out im pregnant, 6 weeks. Initially I was scared and completely overwhelmed and when I told him he urged me to get an abortion immediately. I called to just talk about options, and I have an appt. This week. The more I think, the more I do not want to have an abortion at all!! I already feel attached to my baby. It breaks my heart to think of doing this. I havent told anyone anything yet, he is against this because I recently lost my job. He said I am not financially ready and that I shouldnt have it, that he doesnt want it. Today I broke down and tried to explain that I dont think I can do it. That I dont want to have the abortion and he said this is proving that im crazy. Am I being selfish to keep this baby when im financially not prepared? This wasnt planned but I will work any job to provide for this baby. Is it like he says and my hormones are out of control and making me think unclear. I feel like if I do this, ill never forgive myself. Im so afraid and alone and unsure of what the right thing is right now.

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Answer #1

That is exactly how I feel, Just hearing this from his is making me question if Im wrong. I already have suffered from depression, and just thinking of that day coming up makes me ill. I have so many emotions going through my head. Im still in school, but Im 26 years old, Its not like im some pre teen. I know that this isnt the ideal situation, but I feel like this isnt the tragedy that he thinks it is. I was taking birth control pills and he was pulling out, but he thinks that I must have neglected to take my pill, I really didnt. He said that If I decide to have the baby, he will try to have it taken away from me, because im financially unstable. When I lost my job, I lost almost everything. I lost my insurance, my condo and had to move back home. I just want to make sure Im not being selfish bringing a baby into the world just because id be riddled with guilt if I dont, when I dont have an ideal situation.

Answer #2

NO! you are NOT being selfish to keep this baby, aborting it will be selfish. this is not just your life, but your baby’s! And it sounds like your boyfriend is being selfish. He isnt thinking of your feelings and waht you are going through, I mean afterall YOU are the one carrying the baby not him. It also seems like he just doesnt want to take the responsibility for the baby. A lot of women who get abortions end up regretting it and then becoming depressed or suicidal, so for your own sanity and conciounce an d for the baby’s life, I urge you not to abort the baby. Think of it, this baby is part of you, and it, like you, deserves a chance to grow up and be loved.

Answer #3

Well there are options, adoption? and maybe going to those groups for help. and it really sounds like your boyfriend just wants to get rid of it, is he willing to help support the child?

Answer #4

and yes, for the baby, life may get tough and hard , but well thats the way life is. with proper guidance and love, the baby will grow up fine.

Answer #5

I mean in any case Id rather give the baby up for adoption, then abort it. Id just rather do neither and keep it. Im just so scared to go through with this all alone. I am so overwhelmed.

Answer #6

Well there options if you want to keep it, im pretty sure I’ve heard of support groups and such. and well if it were me I would get my boyfirend to pay childsupport, especially since you recently lost your job.

Answer #7

Dont ever say it is selfish to get an abortion it is not! If you simply cannot take care of your baby because you arent old enough or fanancially ready or anything like that it is not selfish it is the smart thing to do.

Answer #8

keeping a baby in that situation is cruel

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