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Are you the one that initiates the chat or do you wait for someone else to do it for you? Oh and do explain why you feel this way! :)
I usually wait for someone else to talk to me first. I call myself "reserved" lol. Im pretty quiet, and dont usually put myself out there. Im trying to initiate conversations more tho, bcuz I find that people dont always like that I just stand there and wait for people to come to me. They think its more aloof than reserved haha. I also dont like to be awkwardly trying to start a conversation, and it not really click w the person Im talking to, so I like others to start talking... And then of course, I dont know what to talk about all the time
It depends. If it is with customer care people (store clerks where I'm buying stuff, parking attendants, etc), I'll usually say hi, or ask them how they're doing. If I see someone who looks particularly ill at ease or uncomfortable, then I'll say something to start the conversation. Otherwise I dont really like initiating conversations. I think I'm getting better at it, I know people thought I was a complete snob when I was younger. But I still come off pretty quiet and reserved.
If you knew me then you'd know I usually wait for someone. There's no real reason for it I just sometimes have this insane thought that what I say isn't that much important in a way so I don't bother. But I do wish I could change that. And I also feel that if someone tries talking to me then I know they actually care to talk to me and I'm not left wondering if they didn't like me from the start and I tried talking to them for no reason. It's hard to explain.
I usually have people start the conversation. I'm an awfully shy person, and I always feel like I'm bothering someone when I just talk to them out of the blue. I'm also not too great with rejection -- I get hurt easily and feel awful when someone doesn't respond well or at all. So I usually just stay quiet unless spoken to.
I dislike that I'm that way, but..
I like when other people initiate because it makes me feel that they wanted to talk to me, and I wasn't just bugging them or something. Of course I also initiate, but I'd rather someone else do it. I've had relationships with people where I was always the one initiating, when I stopped, they didn't even bother to talk to me ever again.
I usually initiate the conversation. I spent almost 18 years in the entertainment industry and learned to talk to people easily, so it comes natural for me now, I find it puts people at ease if I just start talking to them and heck, if I start the conversation I get to pick the subject and than I can talk about my dogs!! ; )
I usually wait for someone to start, I'm rather quiet, and I don't know what to talk about ever. I don't really like the same things as a lot of people, so I find ith ard to find something to talk about. Whenever we do start talking, I usually let them talk, I'm much better at listening.
I start 90% of the time, in text, in person, email, everything. i like to pounce while my pray is still fresh hahaa jk. i talk a lot so i need lots of people to talk to keep entertained anyways so ill usually be the one to start and lead the conversation.
I Start for someone to say something, I don't let people talk for me, but I do pery much let people start so meaby then I can think of things to say you know. Not very talkative but I talk. :)
Either way. I can be quite shy when I first met someone, but only for like two seconds. Then you cant get me to shut up...
I know exactly what you mean... Amazing how a little change can affect so much, right?
Yeah..