What is it like being with a police officer?

No, I mean personality changes, emotional changes after being on the force.

ohhh, urmm… they could be a bit more aggitated and things like that..!

Thx.

Only some things about them change. And actually their families change too because they don’t want to do something that could be illegal and the cop would have to do something abou it and because it’s family the cop doesn’t want to do something about it. The cop is a little more “up-tight” but that’s pree much all that changes.

I would say they change similarly to how a person in the military changes. After witnessing crimes like deaths, suici*es, kidnappings, speeders, and such, they begin to have a different perspective on their perception of reality. Just like someone in the military, they become what’s called “hyper-vigilante” basically meaning, an acute alertness of one’s surroundings. Their attitude towards people may change and they begin to question their peer’s behavior.

In terms of family-type changes, I would say that their busy lifestyle of always being on duty creates a depressive mind because they never have time to start a family, or maintain one. What once may have been someone happy, is now someone who is constantly upset about having people tell them over and over “I wish you were here more often.”. I wouldn’t be surprised if police officers had such a high divorce rate, because people don’t want to associate with someone who might die in the next call of duty. As for alcoholism, a lot of people find an easy escape in such a suppressive drink. It calms the senses and makes like “bearable” in a way.

I know a kid who is studying to be a police officer so he spends his days around crime scenes a lot, and he used to make jokes and stuff all the time. After witnessing a crime in which a teacher’s brother was murd*red and hanged from the staircase, the kid acts differently now. He’s a lot more aggressive towards people in school and kind of has that “I’m cautious” look to his eyes.

This of course is judging from a bad scenario and is pretty similar to someone who might be in the military too. Some people are unaffected by events like that and seem normal just as they were.

Some statistics are:

Police have a higher risk of suic*des than any other profession. Probably due to the conflicts I mentioned above about the divorces and events they witness.

handcuffs ;)

handcuffs ;)

Thanks Aleks :D

I’ve dated a police officer for 2 years. His schedule changes sometimes have him working the overnight shift. The biggest thing that I notice is after he has been on high alert at work all day fighting crime. When he comes home he is usally still on high alert, checking out his surroundings and a bit agressive with the bear hugs squeezing me real tight. But I can generally help him to relax and let down his gaurd a little. Sometimes a massage helps and other times it helps that he is home in safe and familiar surroundings. Althoug everyone is different, I’ve found that his friemd who are officers like peace and quiet when they are home. My boyfriends best friend has been married 27 years. I know of other officers who work with my boyfriend who have successful marriages and wives who take the time to learn to support their husbands.

handcuffs are definately a plus