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Okay, here is me a 16 year old boy who is going to joing the marine corps and im working to gain my networking degree so after the marine corps I can go to school and become a psychiatrist. well to start me and this girl have been talking a lot and she has had a bad past with bad b/fs and sometimes a very unsupportive family. Well the other day we were talking about getting together and being a couple; and she told me today that she might be pregnant from her ex. and im in a rut I really like kids and really want to be with her and I would help her no matter what and I would be a father for the kid since I know the father would not be there but here is my real question how am I going to do this or am I just a 16 year old who is getting into way to much. HELP please if you want more detail im willing to answer anything. feel free to IM me. Also I know the kid is not mine so.
Very honorable thing to do indeed but if you join the marine corps while with this woman I can garantee that you will not see them often and she will end up leaving you because you will never be there, you will always be overseas(believe me I'm in Iraq now in the Army). If you stay with this woman you will have to be there for her and at 16 you have a long life ahead of you. Also you have to think if she is just trying to get help for her and her baby's sake...not saying that conciously she is but her instincts are telling her that she can't handle everything by herself so she's trying to get a nice guy like you to help her out.
I know it sounds bad but do not let her take you away from your dreams for her own sake. You have not known her long enough for her to have the right to shoot down everything you have waiting on you.
Oh dear... I think this would be a lot for you to take on at your age. You have your whole life ahead of you and you're making good plans. The problem with making a decision THIS big when you're 16, is that you change a lot between the ages of 16 and 25, heck, you even change a lot between 16 and 18. Your thoughts are very noble, but it's a huge decision.
Try to ask yourself some hard questions. If she isn't pregnant, how does that change the way you feel?
Also from what you're saying, it doesn't appear that you really know her that well. You've never been a couple, either...
I hope you get some more opinions here, but my gut tells me you should walk away from this one.
hey man, I kinda know the situation, I always get myself into stuff like this too...its really up to you but when you're 16 you really dont want to try raising a kid...ESPECIALLY while your in the corps. I dont even really like having relationships, you're gone way too much, you hardly ever see them and you really have no work schedule...u can get called up anytime. My advice is talk it over. Oh yea and if your just joining up to get the free college...wrong service bro, do something like the navy or airforce dude.
If the girl is really pregnant, and she will have a baby you should be simple supportive and lovely etc, and postpone all the questions for a later time, e.g. when you will be 18 or 20. You may assure her about your future behavior, you two will live together, but till that she has to stay with her family, and that is all right.
ya man thats way to much to take on. I had a similar situation 1yr back. You really have no idea what your getting yourself into. At 16 you really shouldn't be trying to grow up so quick. Life will kick you in the nuts and then spit in your face. women come and go, especially at 16. focus on your life, no one elses
