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Im going to bullet point this problem because it is to long and confusing to write out in a paragraph, please help!
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I don't really know how to advise you. I would suggest that you "Print" what you posted and find a way to somehow be alone with your dad then give it to him to read so that he can understand. He probably doesn't really realize how you are growing up and how important he is to you.
Maybe you could save up some money then invite him out to a father-daughter dinner where you would have a chance to communicate your feelings and concerns to him.
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its ok ramatla0807 and my reply to blkbeauty, well my mom wasnt married to my dad so the oourts wernt involved but I have depression and I go to like a non mainstream school because of other things and I have councelling that isnt really helping at the moment cus they twist things and I dont like talking to them because of it if you understand what I mean, and I talk to my mom but then she starts to get upset and then I feel bad so I try to avoid it. I do pray aswell, for a lot of things but they never come so I just have to be patient until they do. and last but not least.. my reply to ethmer, I like the idea about the dinner but he would just bring his wife along even if I ask him not to because thats the way he is, I know this because my sister asked him to come for a drink with him on her birthday [to be father and daughter] and she asked him not to bring his wife and she turned up with a big fat smurk on her face as if to say ha you cant get rid of me and like if im younger than her there is no chance he will listen to me but I can still try it. thanks
I know it doesnt happen to me alone so thats why I have asked this for people to help as other people may know what I should do, and my dad is important to me! plus you said I should leave other peoples lives alone? you are making me sound like im the bad 1 here when im not! all I do is try and spend time with MY dad but I cant because people get in the way. and I know it isnt my problem about what happened between me and my mom but you ovb dont understand that it does still hurt and I will get upset about it so it is a problem to me thanks for the help but it didnt make a difference at all because all you have basically told me to do is pretend I dont have a dad because he "isnt" important when he is. and it does take time to move on with your life after family matters happen as im sure many people should know and I take longer to accept it as everyone deals with things diferent and that how I am. sorry but its true
answer to blkbeauty - my mom wasnt married to him so the courts didnt get involved and I get coucilling on my own at the moe because of that and lots of other things, but at the moment they arent really helping they are just listening writing it down and then twisting what I say so that I sound stupid if you understand what I mean, and I do pray for a lot of things but they havent come to me yet I just need to wait. answer to ethmer - I like the idea of the dinner I will try that but I know even if I ask him not to he will bring his wife along too and she will turn up with this smurk on her face like always but hey dont knoc it till ya try it enit, answer to ramalta0807, its ok soz for going off on one at ya
Parents divorce and at times seems like the children get the short end of the stick a lot. Write down everything that you feel. Ask your dad if you two can spend a weekend together.
Sounds like the stepmom maybe jealous of you and if that is the case then she's immature. The bond between father and child should never be invaded by no one.
Write a journal it will help you get over the tough times. Pray I know it's hard right now but one day you will have peace come over you and you will see everything in a different light.
Did the courts order family counseling? Did you speak to your mother about this? Pray baby and know that your dad will come around one way or another.
Your prayers will be answered when you quit trying so hard, let it go and see if things don't turn around for you, the wife is intimadated with you as the step sister also, don't worry he cheated on your mom, he will cheat also on this one, he will get sick of her smothering his well being, then he will realize what he has done to his family, his conscience won't let him forget, absence makes the heart grow fonder, many blessings to you and your family, Summerrainn
I no exactly what your going through because my dads similar but even worse I've learned that he has a new life an my only choices are 2 aceppt it an feel invincable are take him outta my life I wish you best of luck with your dad
sorry about all the replys its because when I post them they dont show up so I think it hasnt worked and I re-do it but I will try not to do that mistake again
Wow I know someone just like you. Usually she doesn't talk about it often. Sorry hun don't know what to tell ya. I'll get back wit you.
Make your dad notice you!! There is no reason why he shouldn't be paying attention to his daughter!
ok thanks for your advice
How old are you?
im 14
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