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Play or Wedding?

My cousin’s wedding and my play are on the same day. I can’t do both because his wedding is in Kansas, and I live in Maryland. I would rather do my play, but my dad says that I have to call my aunt, uncle and cousin and explain to them that I chose my play over them. I feel really bad, because I don’t want to disappoint them or my cast and directors, who I am closer to than my family. (They live in California.) What should I do? How should I tell the other people that I can’t go (to the wedding or the play)?

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Answer #1

This is your decision entirely.

But if you choose to drop the wedding, I suggest you ring them up and explain that the play has been planned for a long time, you have a good role in it and you could have a good career prospect in the future from this. You are terribly sorry and there is a wedding gift/card coming their way. Many congratulations on their day etc. Hope to see them soon and have a good honeymoon.

However…

If you decide to drop the play…

Mention that you are terribly sorry if it messes anything up, you are prepared to help the fill in to go over their lines. Say that this is family and although you love them more, it is a duty to do it and be there for your cousin. You will be back and will put your whole heart into other productions regardless of anything else.

Your family need to understand how dedicated you are into your acting and shouldn’t make you choose.

Answer #2

as much as I love drama and acting like you do, I’d always put family first! - I’d just simply tell the cast that it’s a family thing, and that you have your cousin getting married on the same day as your play, and you need to be there for your cousin. it’s not that you don’t care about your cast, it’s just that family always comes first!

Answer #3

Since your not in the wedding - you should definitely do your play. Just tell them that the cast needs you and without you the play cant happen. Obviously the wedding can happen without you there. Just send your love and congratulate them, I’m sure they will understand.

Answer #4

Be completely honest to either one. Tell them the truth and hopefully they will understand. Explain to them why one or the other is important to you. At the end you have to do the best for yourself and do what you got to do!

GOOD LUCK

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