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what do you do when your dad and sis hate u?
I doubt they hate you. My dad barely ever talks to me and everytime I'm around him we get into a fight and we never seem to get along but I do know he cares. Sometimes its hard for dads. They see us growing up and they don't completly know how to react to it or communicate with us like they could when we were little. My dad works alot and when school starts I only see him on Saturday and Sunday and we still get into fights. The fact is that he just doesn't want to lose that part of his little girl and I know its hard for my dad to see me growing up so fast and him missing alot of it because he's working hard for our family.
Talk to your dad and sis, thats the best thing you can do. I don't know how exactly your relationship is with them but if you are able talk to them. No matter what happens at least they'll know how you feel and you might get to know how they feel. They might not even truely know that this is bothering you. Good Luck! ~Alanna
ok harryhpdr555, I have the exact same problem except its just my dad that hates me...it just happened all of a sudden...nowadays he wont let me go out anymore and whenever I see him...even if I dont talk to him he always starts to shout and swear at me... im not sure what I've done wrong but theres seriosuly something wrong!! hes even told me that he despises me and wants me to move out!! im 16 and he lets my little sister go out with her friends all the time and shes 12, he wont even let me go out with boys!! he was in hospital for a week last week and its gottten to the point where I was happier when he was in there and I wish he WAS back in there...I never want to see him again but as im only 16 there isnt much I can do? anyone got advice??
ok harryhpdr555, I have the exact same problem except its just my dad that hates me...it just happened all of a sudden...nowadays he wont let me go out anymore and whenever I see him...even if I dont talk to him he always starts to shout and swear at me... im not sure what I've done wrong but theres seriosuly something wrong!! hes even told me that he despises me and wants me to move out!! im 16 and he lets my little sister go out with her friends all the time and shes 12, he wont even let me go out with boys!! he was in hospital for a week last week and its gottten to the point where I was happier when he was in there and I wish he WAS back in there...I never want to see him again but as im only 16 there isnt much I can do? anyone got advice??
ok harryhpdr555, I have the exact same problem except its just my dad that hates me...it just happened all of a sudden...nowadays he wont let me go out anymore and whenever I see him...even if I dont talk to him he always starts to shout and swear at me... im not sure what I've done wrong but theres seriosuly something wrong!! hes even told me that he despises me and wants me to move out!! im 16 and he lets my little sister go out with her friends all the time and shes 12, he wont even let me go out with boys!! he was in hospital for a week last week and its gottten to the point where I was happier when he was in there and I wish he WAS back in there...I never want to see him again but as im only 16 there isnt much I can do? anyone got advice??
ok harryhpdr555, I have the exact same problem except its just my dad that hates me...it just happened all of a sudden...nowadays he wont let me go out anymore and whenever I see him...even if I dont talk to him he always starts to shout and swear at me... im not sure what I've done wrong but theres seriosuly something wrong!! hes even told me that he despises me and wants me to move out!! im 16 and he lets my little sister go out with her friends all the time and shes 12, he wont even let me go out with boys!! he was in hospital for a week last week and its gottten to the point where I was happier when he was in there and I wish he WAS back in there...I never want to see him again but as im only 16 there isnt much I can do? anyone got advice??
Dear harryhpdr555, It may seem difficult to see it this way now but you have what we call faulty thinking. When we get less than what we expect from others we internalize it to become something we did. That's why you say they hate me instead of why are they behaving badly. Do you see the difference. We have no control over they way other people act but we have control over how we internalize their actions. Like self blame. Make an appointment with the schools counsellor and discuss this with them. There are many ways to correct your faulty thinking and raise your self-esteem. Sue...good luck
Communication is hard sometimes... but, very important, try to make inroads into what is going on in the minds of your family... it may be hard to get them to open up, but, it will be worth it, if you can. Tell them that issues need to be discussed, and how you feel about things... Keep trying... it will get easier...
Blessings..
NOTHING. If you think your dad and sister hate you, talk to them personally about how you feel and think about them. They are your family so it is very impossible that they hate you. I'm sometimes hard on my bro but i still love him. I'm just doing that to him because he's 5 years younger, lol.
Ok? :) take care
And why do you think they hate you? I'm sure you're getting the wrong impression and looking to deeply into something that may not actually be there. Step back a bit, reevaluate everything that's going on in your life, and maybe you'll find the problem lies elsewhere and not with your dad and sis.
well my dad hardly ever talks 2 me anymore and my sis is so hard on me my mum is the only 1 who talks 2 me and cares!!
i doubt they hate you, maybe you are taking things the wrong way..re look over it and see what happens...xx
hate tham back lol x
