Parents trouble

You are not really being bad here because it is what you would call a bit of a white lie. It makes everyone happy and you really didn’t have many other options. What I would recommend though is that you tell them about this. There is no need to tell them that you lied. All you really need to do is tell them that the two of you got back together and that should cover you, lol.

Your parents will only learn to accept this with time and you really need to push this issue on them and tell them that your boyfriend isn’t going anywhere and that if they cannot accept him, then that is their problem. Being so culturally intolerant in this regard is doing wring by you and you should feel at ease with telling them that. They may be your parents, but they have no right at all to tell you who you should/ shouldn’t be dating in this context. Your boyfriend obviously treats you well and cares for you and those are two important things and your parents should not attempt to deny you those things.

Finding somebody that you connect with, can talk to, trust, love, etc, is not easy and to think that your parents are looking beyond this only on the basis of your boyfriend’s culture/ race is ridiculous and shallow. You have obviously been considerate of their feelings, but you need to be more considerate of your own. I would recommend you tell them in no uncertain terms that you love this guy and that nothing they can say or do is going to change it. People often use cultural intolerance to put themselves in a position of power. If you tell them there is nothing they can do, you are taking away that power and it may lead to them simply accepting this.

However, a lot of ‘old-school’ parents do have trouble accepting such things and it will always depend on what kind of people they are. I think honesty is the best approach though because it will not only allow you to free your mind, but it will give you the moral highground. Eventually they will accept it I am sure… They might not tell you they do (stubborn), but within themselves there will be a point in time when they actually do. So don’t hold back I say. Let them know the truth and from there, their opinions are entirely theirs to have. Just make sure you let them know that there will be no backing down about this. You deserve to be happy, so don’t let them stop you :)!