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Actions like that mean they don't know how to answer or solve the problem. In the past they found out that being mad solved their problems. It actually doesn't, you found out, it's an indicator that they don't know how.
There is something you are doing they don't like, it stems from earlier times when they were yelled at wanting to do or say something. They are only carrying out the actions of others done to them. They saw that yelling worked, so do it themselves. Big mistake! big time.
The only way to handle any problem is to discuss it. They evidently don't want to or know how to discuss any problem, except by yelling. A problem is solved by wanting to find out what is needed and wanted. Ask them, "I want something, what is it you need from me, so I can have it." If they don't want to give it or allow it, find another way to get it. But don't do something that will upset them, because it will only irritate them more. Then the next time you ask they won't for sure allow it.
Just give them time to calm down and think about whether what you did was actually hurtful to them or warranted being told off for. If not then you have time to think through your argument for why you feel what you did was justified and explain what your intentions actually were (e.g. you borrowed the car without asking, but you just wanted to go and get some food so you did not have to ask them to go to the grocery store as you were hungry). Leave it a couple of hours and go up to them later in the evening when everything is calmer again then apologise, even if you do not feel in the wrong. Then go on to explain your viewpoint and that you did not mean to make them mad. If this is too hard for you to do then maybe try writing them a short letter explaining yourself and, again, apologising. If you deal with things in a calm and mature way they will build more trust in you too and it may help them because mad less easily in the future as they know just talking something through will work.
Heres what teens need to remember. Parent are humans too. We have emotions, we arent perfect, and just like you get mad sometimes and lash out, so do we. Next time the situation happens remember that your parents have alot of stress and on their plates - raising a supporting a family, money problems, relationship problems, stress from work, etc. Don't yell back, don't argue, just sit there and be polite and respectful. Then give your parent time to cool down and go and actually have a mature talk with them. No whining, no raising your voice, etc. Almost any parent will apologize for yelling when they realize they were in the wrong and you come to them like an adult and talk maturly.
Parents can get very mad oftenly cause they are under stress. We may not see it, but they worry more than we know. The have to run the house, pay the bills, keep their family happy, etc,etc. Therefore when their child misbehaves, it adds stress. They will get mad, everyone gets mad. They will yell too. Eventually they will calm down and its best to then talk it out.
My mom yelled at me and called me selfish and said im just like my father. she said im selfish bcuz i dont every smile or have no facial expression when she wants to use my computer. that he gave me. (i really think she jealous of something) then she said wen she gets a laptop i better not ask to use it
being a child at one time, and now as a mother. I would say it is because the kids usually have a smart mouth, and parents are just preventing them from saying something that will get them in trouble. But I do believe parents should listen to what their children have to say.
Various reason: Could be they are really angry and can't control themselves. Could be the answer is final and no talking will change that fact. It could be that you have had this conversation before and the parent doesn't want to have it again.
It can be a number of things... Some may think that 'cause they've been around longer and whatnot they obviously know more. Could be a bad day. Could be a matter of competitiveness ... Other things as well. Sometimes you never know.
My parents sometimes just have a bad day or overreact.
