Parents?

Hi, I was adopted when I was a baby im fourteen now. My real mom had me when she was seventeen. She said she was to young couldn’t handle a kid. So she put me up for adoption after giving birth. My parents now are great and I love them with all my heart but… Im curious about my real parents. So my question is should I ask them about my mom or should I leave it be?

Answer #1

You should ask them about your real mom if you’re curious! They most likely won’t mind and I’m sure that they knew you would ask some day. It’s natural to be curious about your real mother. I say just ask your mom what she knows.

Answer #2

Maybe you could read a bit about how a search for natural parents worked out for other people. From what I’ve read, it’s worked out wonderfully for some people, but others have felt really upset, worried or rejected following their search. So you could find out a bit more about what it would involve before you try it yourself, I think.

Answer #3

This happened to a friend of mine, she gave up her baby, she was told to write a note when she did it and the child can receive it if she wants to at the age of 18. Maybe your mom did the same?

Answer #4

I think you have I right to know at this age I would be very curious too. I beleive you should they cant keep it from you forever

Answer #5

this is a really sensitive topic. I think that if your adoptive parents know your real ones they should be open about them, but it may hurt their feelings. and hopefully you dont carry a grudge against your birth parents!

Answer #6

No it’s perfectly natural for you to be asking about your birth mother and father. You have every right to know as much as possible. If your adopted parents don’t want to tell you anything then if it’s possible for you to go to an adoption agency and find out some information then I’d do that if I were you. Just remember you have a right to know about your birth parents. Hope this helps :)

Answer #7

like what poohbear72 said you may hurt there feelings so when you ask you need to tell them that to you they ARE your real parents

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