Overprotective Mother

shes your mom and she loves you, so expect it im afraid! I’m nearly 19 so younger than you, and I’ve just got an apartment with my boyfriend, my mom wasnt so bad about the idea because we’ve been together 5 years, but if you look at my asked questions, I mentioned that she wouldnt leave us alone! and I felt like id never moved out because she was always there, and I know she meant well but I needed my own space. I have moved out quite young, but only because I have been in a relationship for a long time, and my moms now remarried, so she isnt on her own, I couldnt of ever left her on her own, but look at the advice on the question, explain to her one day you will fly the nest and you’d rather do it with her support

Hmm Im guessing imagining all the horrible things that could happen to you if you lived on your own probably helps perpetuate the nagging (dont underestimate a mother’s imagination when it comes to the things that could happen to her kid when she’s away from home…) I would start making plans without necessarily telling her details, since you’ve already hinted at it she is somewhat aware and may need time to absorb the fact that you’re leaving. So look for an apartment, find a job (or whatever you need to be able to move out) and when it comes closer to time, when you have an actual plan then explain your plan to her, when and where you’re moving to, how you’re going to pay your bills, etc etc, if you come up with a concrete plan, she’ll have to accept that you really are moving and that you really are an adult…