He's always controlled by them

ok here it goes.. well a month ago.. my fiance and me made a party to tell the whole family that we are engaged.. so at this day.. I sometimes dont feel hes the right guy for me… he loves me a lot.. but I just dont feel it.. its not like when you love someone and you sit next to him and then your heart starts beating like you love him so much and its not like he gives me butterflies in my stomach.. I feel like hes the guy that could be one of my friends.. but its so hard for me to tell him that hes not the right guy.. cause im sure im going to break his heart and im not that type of person.. :( the other problem is I always think that hes controled by his father and his older brother like they tell him what not to do and what to do and plus when he wants to spend on something I once saw that his atm card is under his fathers name and I think all his money is under his fathers name.. he works 2 jobs I just need help to fix this problem.. cause I cant continue on with this type of life..cause im sure im going to have more problems when we are married

hes 23 and im sure he can handle stuff by himself and one more thing.. hes definitely a people pleaser.. and I really dont like it.. cause some people dont deserve to be treated that type of way

so whats the solution I need ure help people

thx so much