Obsessed with my ex

I was with someone for 6 years, we were together on and off. When it was off I was the one to break it off. Finally she had enough and is now living with someone. Our final breakup was over 2 years ago and I can’t stop thinking about her. I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life and I can’t go on without her. I’ve become suicidal. I hate myself for not appreciating her enough while I was with her and driving her away. My life now without her is so much poorer. I feel like I can’t go on. Any advice would be hugely appreciated.

Answer #1

No one should EVER make you become suicidal, and when they do, thats when you need to seek counseling. On again, off again relationships never survive!

Put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let her know it, what would you expect her to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.

Every time thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above, AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS.

Really thank them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference they DID make in your life. Realize that THAT was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.

You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.

The only one you will EVER need is YOU. The only one that will NEVER leave you is YOU. So place ALL of your energy on being and expressing all you came into this life for. It is NOT about them – it is all about you and your growth. That is the most important thing. Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved more as a result of all you have been through.

The only thing that matters is what you do from THIS moment forward. Love yourself – a LOT!

Answer #2

im a girl so ya know I know waaah glas think like haha just tell her how you feel or ask if you cn strill meet up and b frends sum things are just fate and im sure thetre is sumbodii out dere 4 u hope I helped lozzzaaa <3

Answer #3

Thanks to everyone who answered my post. I am still having a really rough time, I even joined a support group and have made some new friends who have the same problem. One of the biggest problems is how different my life is without her. We did everything together - great vacations, going to the beach, cooking, shopping, etc. Now I just sit at home and watch DVD’s or go to a bar and drink. I’ve started smoking a lot too. And I still think of her all the time. Please continue to respond, it really helps.

Answer #4

I really feel for you. We have all gone through what you are going through now. You could give her a call and try to be friends, but that may be to painful. You have to take this experience and hopefully use the knowledge that you learned from it so you don’t make the same mistake in a future relationship. Always appreciate the people that are in your life and try not to take the relationships for granted. It may be to late to do anything to “fix” your past relationship, but it sounds as though you have grown as a person, and that will help you to build solid relationships in the future.

Answer #5

Dude I know what exactly what you mean me and my girl were like that too and I would litterally cry when she said she would leave me. I mean once you fall in love with someone its hard to get over it but you know you need to find someone else that will make you feel special like she did. Yeah I always think im going to die if she left me because I love her so much. I mean this isnt advice but I want to let you know I feel for you.

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