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Not sure what to do about my dad...

heres the story…im 15, going into 10th grade. and my grades are pretty good. most of them have been Bs or higher. a few have them have been under. to my dad, grades are terrible unless they are over an 85. but I cant do that. honestly im not that smart. I studied for over 14 hours for my history final last year, I failed. but my dad keeps telling me if I get anything under an 85 then no college will want me, and that im going to work at mcdonalds all my life. now I know he wants me to do good in life, but hes basically telling me im going to fail so I shouldnt bother trying!! how do I get him to lay off?!

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Answer #1

just tell him that the way he trys to “motivate you” hurts and upsets you because it makes you feel as if he doesnt think your good enough. I just had this conversation with my grandparents over the weekend. I turned 19 last month, I have a 13mnth old, and I got my GED in May. I have a lot of things going on right now, like setteling into my new apt, probation, and self help classes, and my grandpa got me down by talking about how just because I got my GED didnt mean I shouldnt be enrolled in college right now, and having a great job. I got upset and was crying and started to leave, but my grandma persistantly asked me what was wrong. When I told her we had a heart to heart, and told me that I wasnt a failure and that they knew I was doing the best I could one step at a time, and that I’ve already achomplished more than my mother. maybe he is scared that you will follow down the steps of someone in your family or close to you? and shortly After, I swear I seen my grandpa wipe a tear from his eye, because he didnt realize how hurtful his words were to me.

Answer #2

Tell him that its not fair thats hes putting you down all the time, you try harder than a lot of people would ever even do and that he should let you deal with your own future because you know what your doing with your life. Im 15 too btw, going into grade 10

Answer #3

take what he says with a grain of salt (respectively)… he obviously has a great desire for you to succeed his method however is wrong. College is very competitive, but there is always alternatives. CC or a vocational school. some of the wealthiest people in the world never went to college.. they just found there niche in the world. You should try and do the same

Answer #4

if it was my dad, I would tell him “dad, you really need to stop about that, its my life!, if not yours!, so can you please just stop already?” even if he gets mad he’ll get over it sooner or later, but still I would bring it up or even just tell him to shut up already

Answer #5

Tell him to…Very few people get over 85 ALL THE TIME its just dum…not all of us are a genius…and don’t worry a collage will want you so don’t sweat it

Answer #6

tell him you want to be supported and not be brought down

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