Hey y'all. So I met this guy through a friend at a party about 3 weeks ago...we immediately hit it off and made out for a bit, during which he sat me down on his lap and told me how beautiful I was and that he wanted to take me out on a date. Well, my friend ended up dragging me out of the party before we exchanged numbers but we were still able to connect through Facebook. After flirting for a week, we finally managed to get together with some of his friends and ended up hooking up yet again that night. Once again, HE brought up how he wanted to take me out to dinner and a movie and was asking me where we should go etc. We spent the rest of the night talking and I found out that he has been in relationships since basically the 6th grade and just got out of an 8 month long one 2 months ago. He proceeded to do all of these really intimate things like brush my hair out of my face, kiss my forehead, ask me if I was OK or needed anything, etc. Well, we parted ways and after a day or so I get a message on FB saying that he wants me to know that he's "not ready for a relationship right now" and "hopes that I don't expect him to ask me out." Except he's been texting me non-stop ever since that night...and seems to get a little jealous when I mention hanging out with other guys...
Anyways, my question is: do you think he genuinely likes me and just needs to be single right now/doesn't know what he wants? OR am I being used? I really like him and would be willing to wait a little for him to figure out what he wants...but I also have some other guy options out there...so if I'm just being led on...I'd rather move on and make things happen with someone else.
Thanks for the advice -- if you were able to read this entire thing! :)
I feel like I have been in your situation before... a guy just gets out of a longer relationship, is a bit lonley, wants to get out again, finds someone he likes (you), but then gets a little freaked out. If that is the case, try not to get too attached, chances are... he doesn't want any kind of relationship, just the company of a person who he cares about. It doesn't sound like he is just using you, just that he enjoys your company. If you do want a relationship out of the whole thing though, I suggeset moving on.
Best of luck! -Jacinda
yeah I agree with the above but you know if it was me I would go ahead and go out with the other guys too...just cause you do out on a date with them doesn't mean you have to kiss them or be with them or that your promising them anything...and who knows you might find someone that you really like and then you won't worry about this other guy at all...so just go out and have fun and let whatever's supposed to happen happen...and if your supposed to be with him then it will happen eventaully
he likes u, but he's afraid of getting serious cause of his past relationship. he's kinda freaked out, I agree, but maybe something happened during his last relationship. maybe he was the one who got dumped and either he doesn't want the same to happen 2 u, he still likes the other girl, or somethin like that. he likes u, no doubt, but maybe he just wants a good time, not a serious relationship, good luck
I agree completely with jaceb. Best thing is to not think of him as a boyfriend because right now he is confused and does not know what he wants and if try to make this work it is just going to be a headache and a stress that you do not need in your life so the best thing to do is to leave him be.
He doesn't know what he wants and is stringing you along in the process. Stay away. At least for now.