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My wife still talks to her ex-boyfriend

we’ve been married for 2 years and she still talks to her ex. I confronted her many times as a result she cries, apologize and sneaks again over the phone or email. last time she went as far as having affair with him. That time I was maaad and we almost had a divorce. But then, she promised again .. same thing happening .. sneaking !!! she thinks she can fool me but I keep on finding it …what should I do .. ?? any advice

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Answer #1

Obviously she still has feelings for him, if she had an affair already and continues to contact him..She may be crying and upset when you confront her, but is she crying because she is genuinely sorry or is it that she got caught.

Sometimes people do have just platonic relationships with exes..but if she knows how you feel about it, she should be trying to make you more comfortable..and if it already resulted in an affair, then she should understand your concern.

Maybe you can ask her why she feels it is so important to keep contact with him and if she admits to having feelings for him that are unresolved..then you have to ask yourself if you are willing to share your wifes heart with someone else…only you know that answer and no one can really advise you on what to do because, ultimately you have to live with the decision..

If she wants to be friends with him, ask if maybe you can be part of this…so that there isnt sneaking, and you are more comfortable with the situation.

Answer #2

My wife is still with her boyfriend.. even we are 15 years married even she told me that some our kids are hims.. but we are happy and we have not problems. She going to sleep over to his place for few days and after come to me and somethime going on hollidays with him e.t.c but I am happy when my wife is happy and we like it! so you can try it also!

Answer #3

Try confronting her again. If she loves you enough, then she wouldn’t have had an affair anyway. Let her know how you feel about the entire situaion, and I mean the entire situation. Think about what you want to do and tell her what you want to do. If that means “taking a break” or a divorce, then she can be with him all she wants and you don’t have to suffer for it. But if you have kids, then consider them to, if not, then it makes it a little easier, not a lot, because I’m sure you love her. Good luck to you!

Answer #4

thanks man .. I have tried all there is to try… she knows exactly how I feel … but still there is something about her that is not letting her forget that dude. If I confront it again either we are heading for the court or she would undermine our relationship thinking that I cant do sh**t … sticky situation…thanks for your advice though.

Answer #5

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Answer #6

tell her that she needs to be upfront with you and if she doesnt stop your going to leave her

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