My Parents Suck!

Ok I love my parents like crazy and I’m D@mn sure they love me, but when we try to sit down and have a discussion about me dating they start yelling and screamming. I try to keep my voice at a low calm tone, but they start yelling louder so I get pissed and yell back. I’m 14 and obviously have a different say about dating. My opinion on dating:

Age: 13-14 Requirements: Maturity, Kind, Responsible. Ways of showing effection: Holding hands, Hugging, Kissing, And cuddling

My Parents opinion:

Age: 16 Requirements:Good grades, Maturity, Responsible, bla bla bla… Ways of showing effection: NONE! AT ALL UNTIL YOUR MARRIED!

what the h@ll should I do?

Answer #1

explain to them why you want to have a girlfriend, and that you will be reasponaible. And tell them what they want to hear, like agree with what they say “kinda” and then be like well I think that I can be reaponsbile and explain yourself to them go in detail it helps… hope it works!!! did 4 me!!! haha when I was 12 tho!! and it still has been for almost 3 years

Answer #2

do what ever you want, im 13 and my parents are the same way. If they want to b such a pain in the a$$ then they dont get the PRIVLEDGE to know wht goes on in my life. They want me to live by their rules, but its my story and I’m not going to let them write it.

Answer #3

Hey ima country kid I can live in a friggin tent for all my life! Anyway I do act mature they just don’t effing get it! They think I want to have sex but I don’t care about that! They think I do stuff at this park we always hang out at! But the only reason I hang out at the park is so they know where I am I think of them a lot!

Answer #4

ha no prob. =] praying is an ECTREAMLY WONDERFUL PERFECT idea, by the way. If you mean what you say God will help you. :] good luck.

-maddie

Answer #5

I don’t know my parents won’t even let me talk about her to them! They don’t know her for who she is! They met her and they like her or so they say. I don’t know I want to cry I’m so pissed. I’ll pray bout it… Thanks maddie for helping me out thank you sooo much…

Answer #6

I think you are being very responsible for your age, and I suggest not trying to go behind their backs, because that would end really bad, just try to work it out I guess, or make you self a ultimadum like getting B’s in school in order to have relationships

Answer #7

Talk to you girlfriend. Why do they think she’s slutty? Oh, I see because they think every girl is. Maybe you should sit down with your parents and girl and talk to them all together about what you are/aren’t doing and what you want/don’t want to do together.

it will be awkward, but hopefully worth it. :] -maddie

Answer #8

pezkez I hang with close to around 12 guys and girls all the time with her. People in the town I live in(Very small town Almelund MN) call us they Brady Bunch. But my mom is being very stubborn on the whole situation. I tried reasoning but I guess I’ll just keep trying!!! haha

Answer #9

Be patient - one day you’ll get your turn at being the parent and trying your best to look after their best interests…because you Love them.

Answer #10

Good for you. You at least are taking your parents thoughts into consideration. Most kids don’t even do that. I think instead of worrying about if you can or can’t you should let things fall as they may. If you really like a girl bring her home as a good friend. if you’re parents like her slowly work them into the idea of dating her.

-maddie

Answer #11

LOL! living in a camper? that bad, huh?

well it’s not helping anything. if you acted more mature they might take you more seriously and give you what you want. they think you’re being nice, but you’ve got TRICKS UP YOUR SLEEVE :] haha

-maddie

Answer #12

Lmao. You’re funnyy. Hang out with 1 or 2 of your friends,, and that special one you like.. all at the same time. Sooner or later,, your parents wont think anything of it… So slowly start hanging out with that special one,, alone!, Juss you two. haha,, You’re welcome. btw.. let your parents meet your friends.. including that special one… they’ll probably end up likeing all of them. so they won’t think anything of it when you two are dating..

Answer #13

I don’t and my bros tell and they get pissed and yell and I yell and all hell breaks lose. I have a girlfriend and they think shes slutty just because they think all girls are slutty! My girlfriend is no were near slutty… They think I’m going to get caught up in a nasty@$$ evil web of girls? Thats what my mah said I know funny haha but I’m soo sick of it! I actually moved out to live in the yard in my camper just to get away from dem!

Answer #14

Well first off I think you should just sit them down and say “Ok I want to talk to you guys so don’t say anything antil I’m done and then just say that you really like this girl or watever and tell them that you will only kiss,hug,cuddle and hold hands.” Then let them get a chanse to say somthing and if they still say no ask them why and then say look im 14 and I think that I should kinda have a say in things too and then HOPEFULLY they will say yes!!! Well good luck and hey don’t give up!!!

Answer #15

well every1 has a different opinoin, so just dont tell them that your dating

Answer #16

I ‘d say move away … caz you got nothing parent won’t let you

Answer #17

Just dont tell them your dating Lmao

Answer #18

they know and they being a$$holes! F*CK I’m done F this!

Answer #19

and you’d happen to know how?

Answer #20

haha my thing didn’t even help a bit. x]

Answer #21

the only issue with “kissing, holding hands, cuddling, etc” that your parents probably have is that they understand how potent that can be. And they understand how easy it is to become sexually active because THEY have been there before. Believe it or not your parents are more than likely trying their hardest to look out for your best interests. Most parents are. They just don’t communicate it well when they are upset or scared. Try keeping your cool when you talk about it with them. Treat them like they are on your team. Treat them like you WANT them on your team. Eventually they will be more agreeable, especially if you live up to the standards you have set for yourself.

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